always_mmm
Jun 23, 2009, 01:40 PM
Long story will try to make short... Close Friends for almost 28 years, some years would pass with little to no contact for awhile, due to out of state moves.
I had been told little lies (heard her tell BIG ones to others), nothing major I thought. GUESS I felt special, I was her longest friendship...
She became interested in someone a few months ago, they had gone to school together years prior. They connected online through one of the friend finder things:confused:
He had been married for a very long time and was going through a messy divorce, I think he felt lonely for female attention. So, knowing her was a plus even if they hadn't seen one another in over 30 years. Well to shorten this story... they exchanged photos hers were 15+ years old of herself. He was assured by her they were recent, taken within the year. She also told him some really HUGE HUGE lies about her life and lifestyle. He said he could have forgiven her, if they didn't just keep coming. Then her child posted a recent photo of her on the site they were exchanging info to one another on and he was in shock, felt sick... he had confronted her about the lies on her life, that he had also learned by mistake. He told her he couldn't trust her and wanted nothing more to do with her.
She calls me begs me to contact him, let him know how much she cares for him (still have not met face to face) while doing this he begins to tell me things about myself. Some of what he said was true and others were out and out lies, regardless that was my personal information and it had been told to a complete stranger.
He gave me his #, I called several weeks later, I had to hear the rest. I am in shock,TOO... how can someone do a friend of this many years this way? I was trying to help her and I find out this!! I also found out she was trying to get this man to marry her when she was telling me he was begging her. She says he says... he calls me all the time all hours, he's says just the opposite:rolleyes:
My Question I Guess Is This... Should I let her know, that I know, she has lied all these times and I don't appreciate her putting my business out there to others, especially when she feels the need to add to it or just make something :mad: completely up! Should I continue communicating with this man, to see if I can find out more, how should this be handled? I am married and don't want to cause unnecessary problems at home.
I had been told little lies (heard her tell BIG ones to others), nothing major I thought. GUESS I felt special, I was her longest friendship...
She became interested in someone a few months ago, they had gone to school together years prior. They connected online through one of the friend finder things:confused:
He had been married for a very long time and was going through a messy divorce, I think he felt lonely for female attention. So, knowing her was a plus even if they hadn't seen one another in over 30 years. Well to shorten this story... they exchanged photos hers were 15+ years old of herself. He was assured by her they were recent, taken within the year. She also told him some really HUGE HUGE lies about her life and lifestyle. He said he could have forgiven her, if they didn't just keep coming. Then her child posted a recent photo of her on the site they were exchanging info to one another on and he was in shock, felt sick... he had confronted her about the lies on her life, that he had also learned by mistake. He told her he couldn't trust her and wanted nothing more to do with her.
She calls me begs me to contact him, let him know how much she cares for him (still have not met face to face) while doing this he begins to tell me things about myself. Some of what he said was true and others were out and out lies, regardless that was my personal information and it had been told to a complete stranger.
He gave me his #, I called several weeks later, I had to hear the rest. I am in shock,TOO... how can someone do a friend of this many years this way? I was trying to help her and I find out this!! I also found out she was trying to get this man to marry her when she was telling me he was begging her. She says he says... he calls me all the time all hours, he's says just the opposite:rolleyes:
My Question I Guess Is This... Should I let her know, that I know, she has lied all these times and I don't appreciate her putting my business out there to others, especially when she feels the need to add to it or just make something :mad: completely up! Should I continue communicating with this man, to see if I can find out more, how should this be handled? I am married and don't want to cause unnecessary problems at home.