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Shorn9
Jun 18, 2009, 10:11 PM
I have known this girl for about 3 years now and we are really great friends. Her last relationship was over a year ago and did not end very well. She has some problems trusting most men due to that relationship. I want to tell her that I like her more than a friend but I just don't have the gutts to do that. Normally I can tell a girl anything and have never had this problem. But now that I have feelings for her I just cannot say it to her. I think I am afraid of her answer. To make it worse some of my friends know this and have mentioned it to her. She knows I like her but says nothing also. I have no idea whether she can see me more thab just a friend. I don't want to take the risk and end up losing her even as a friend.
What do I do, please, I need some advice.

chuff
Jun 18, 2009, 10:39 PM
I think you may have your answer. If she knows you are into her, and doesn't give you any indication she's interested as well, then that is your answer. She likes you as a friend, nothing more.

ImInLoveWithHim
Jun 18, 2009, 11:27 PM
I wouldn't say anything... if she knows you are interested and she doesn't say anything about it... then she more than likely isn't ready or just isn't interested as well... if I were you I would wait and if she ever brings it up... discuss it with her.. but otherwise I would just keep my mouth shut about it

talaniman
Jun 19, 2009, 10:21 AM
https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/relationships/best-friend-says-she-loves-me-329770.html

Is this her? You have had many females, and males that like you it seems.

Talaniman Rule- Friends, and romance SOUNDS good, and may LOOK attractive, but it better be worth the risk.

Once you cross the boundaries of friendship into a possible romance, its hard to go back to just being friends. Think on this long and hard and don't let the actions of your friends lead you down a path you may not want to take. Be sure of what you feel, before you decide what your going to do.

Personally, I think you just want someone to hook up with. So just casual friendly dating would be a bit better.

Shorn9
Jun 20, 2009, 09:19 AM
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Talaniman Rule- Friends, and romance SOUNDS good, and may LOOK attractive, but it better be worth the risk.

Once you cross the boundaries of friendship into a possible romance, its hard to go back to just being friends. Think on this long and hard and don't let the actions of your friends lead you down a path you may not want to take. Be sure of what you feel, before you decide what your going to do.

Personally, I think you just want someone to hook up with. So just casual friendly dating would be a bit better.

I like her not for some hook up thing but for who she is. She is down to earth beautifull, caring and respects herself. She brings out in me someone good. That's why I'm afraid of taking the risk. I don't want to loose her.

chuff
Jun 20, 2009, 09:31 AM
She brings out in me someone good. Thats why I'm afraid of taking the risk.

That something that is brought out of you that is someone good is you. You do not need her or anybody else to bring that out. Who you are belongs to you, and she nor anybody else does not deserve credit for the good that is with in you. That feeling you are getting happens to be expressing itself at this time in your life and you are wrongly giving her credit for it. You self value is in no way tied to any other human being. Please don't give her credit for your greatness.