Okay so here is the problem. I finally told my dad that I wanted to find my mom who left me when I was 4 years old and I am now 14. She used to be a stripper and she drank a lot. He says she was nice when she was sober. The problem is that I hate talking on the phone and my dad says that that is the only option because if I call her and tell her to meet me some place she probably won't come because she doesn't pay child support and she might think we are setting her up. Are there any other options other than talking on the phone that might catch her off guard so that she won't run?

Hello pwned2112. I am not sure if I am fully understanding your request. Maybe I am not reading your post correctly, if so I apologize. Are you and your father attempting to get your mother to pay child support? I notice that early in your post that you didn't want to scare her off and later you typed, "Are there any other options other than talking on the phone that might catch her off guard so that she won't run?"

Hello pwned2112. I am not sure if I am fully understanding your request. Maybe I am not reading your post correctly, if so I apologize. Are you and your father attempting to get your mother to pay child support? I notice that early in your post that you didn't want to scare her off and later you typed, "Are there any other options other than talking on the phone that might catch her off guard so that she wont run?"

Well I just want to like talk to her and see her but my dad says that if I call and ask to meet her somewhere she might think that we are trying to set her up.(which we are not). So I was just wondering if there was another way I could like contact her where she won't think we are trying to set her up. Sorry by the way. Now that I read what I wrote in my question I see that it is confusing. And thanks if you can help

In fact I don't even think you should phone her, There should be a third party, perhaps your pastor or other family friend, that talks to her and sees if she wants to talk to you.

Remember she may curse you, spit at you, say really bad things.
Also remember if she wanted to talk to you, she could and has decided not to. And decided not to help pay any of your cost of being raised.