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Sincs80
Jun 14, 2009, 08:13 PM
Okay, well my boyfriend invited me out with him and his mates. We went 4wdriving. Although it was fun, there was just one thing that frusterated me. Lol- he said he wanted me to come out with him. But the whole time, he hardly even acknowledged my presence. We didn't speak much the whole time. Then we went back to his place and he was acting really distant. He asked if I was okay and I told him my opinion. Then everything was fine, until, yet again, we went to his cousins. And he began ignoring me again. I was sitting over the other side of the room because he didn't invite me to sit near him, like he used to. Even his cousin wasn't talking to me. I swear I done nothing wrong. Maybe he needs space or something? I don't know, its bit weird to me. What do you think?

nikosmom
Jun 14, 2009, 08:46 PM
It's quite possible that he invited you out to include you in his world but maybe he didn't expect to 'babysit' you the whole evening either. Did any of his friends bring their girlfriends along or were you the only one?

When you talked to him, what did he say?

503person
Jun 14, 2009, 09:00 PM
Maybe he invited you so you wouldn't be offended if he just went without you? I say, next time he invites you, say "Oh, that'd be really fun, but i've made plans to go out with the girls!" Then you get all dressed up, go out, have a ball, and come home. He gets some space, you show him you're independent, it's a win win situation. Also, when you do go out with him and his bros, don't expect him to pay attention to you. Talk to one of the other "girls" there, or one of his guy friends. Don't sit on the couch alone and pout cause he's not talking to you. Show him that you can make your own fun, you are a strong, independent, and fun woman! :)

I wish
Jun 15, 2009, 03:06 PM
If he was going to ignore you, he wouldn't have invited you to these events. Maybe he didn't pay as much attention to you as you wanted, but you could have been more proactive yourself.

His cousins are probably wondering why you are so shy. I understand that you are the guest and you feel that you need to be approached, but you can't always expect someone to approach you first, you got to take the initiative sometimes.

sweet1028
Jun 20, 2009, 12:11 PM
When guys are out with their friends they act different than they would when you two are alone together. Of course, in front of his buddies he is not going to be all over you and giving them no attention. I know that sounds crazy but it seems to be the way guys are, they want to look masculine around their friends but when you two are alone he can be totally different. Hope this makes sense.
Get out there, talk to his friends and him, show him you can get along with the people that he hangs out with as well as him. He will probably fall more in love with you knowing he can still be with friends and you and be comfortable. Hope it all works out for you.