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Wadek
Jun 14, 2009, 12:33 PM
Hi I'm Wade.

Problem is small, my girlfriend cheated on me for a week. I came to know about this thing, I got mad, I cut her for 2 weeks than same old story of crying and feeling sorry. Eventually I started missing her too, so we kind of started again. But the main problem is she has become really sweet with me, extra caring which is freaking me out that why is she doing that, its like the way we started. You know the way beginnings are exciting!

One more problem, I really have trust issues now, I can't trust her but I still want her, at least for some more time.

I'm really confused!

Help me people!

Thanks:)

mudweiser
Jun 14, 2009, 12:39 PM
Well of course she is acting the way she is; she's happy you gave her a second chance. If your starting all over again then start all over again; don't remind her of what she did, how it hurt you, how that guy is a loser, etc. It's best not to bring it up. I don't mean for you to write it off completely; but keep it as a lesson. You now know she is willing to cheat.

Trust is a really hard thing to rebuild. If she still talks to the person she cheated with I would really suggest telling her to stop doing so. It will take time to rebuild that trust, just take it slow.

Sarah

Wadek
Jun 14, 2009, 12:44 PM
Yeah she actually stopped talking to that person, and I know she's not lying on this. I just being protective, because no one likes to get hurt.

But thanks for the reply..

I wish
Jun 15, 2009, 05:27 PM
Got to spread rep mudweiser.

Of course she's going to treat you extra well, she feels guilty for cheating. If she lost your trust, then she's got to earn it back. If you believe that she can earn it back, then continue giving her that chance. If you don't think that she can ever earn it back, then don't hold on. No trust, no relationship.

sweet1028
Jun 20, 2009, 12:06 PM
Well being a girl on the other side of the cheating, it is hard to get over. I didn't cheat but he did. We broke it off. Then we got back together and things were going the same way as you and your girlfriend now. I'm happy to say that he hasn't cheated anymore since the one time and we are happily engaged and ready to get married. He cheated four years ago, and sometimes it still is in the back of my mind, but it's lessons learned. Go for it, if you are willing to give her a second chance you need to let the past go. Life is too short, make it everything it can be. Good luck.