I am 17 years old and I have married a guy whom I love but without any qazi,meher,or anything else he iz also 17, my family doesn't know this... we agreed to the marriage and accepted each other in front of god only... iz this a true marriage

I'm not sure what qazi or meher mean.

Conventional marriages are performed in front of people who support the union and usually have a legally binding aspect. If you were to have children, they may be considered to be 'out of wedlock'.

Making the agreement on front of only God probably won't satisfy legal requirements - depending what country you are from.

True marriage is for you to decide. LEGAL marriage... that will depend on where you live. In the United States, it is not a legal marriage. You have to have a marriage license and have an authorized person perform the ceremony. In addition, if you are under 18, you also have to have parental consent.

However, it does not sound like you are in the US. Telling us your country might make this easier to answer.

https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/islam/abot-marriage-islam-304354.html

This may explain a few things.

As-Salamu Alaikum

It is not a true marriage in Islam.

1) Must have a Wali (guardian)

The Prophet (saws) said: "When a woman marries without the permission of her wali, then her marriage is not valid, not valid, not valid." (related by Ahmed)

The Prophet (saws) said: "There is no marriage without the permission of a guardian." (Abu Dawood)

2) You must have two adult and sane witnesses and the written contract which they must sign

3) The Mahr is the womans right but is not mandatory if she decides to omit it partially or entirely it is OK, because it says in Al-Qur'an An-Nisa ayat 4 (4:4) "And give the women (on marriage) their dower as an obligation; but if they, of their own good pleasure, remit any part of it to you, take it and enjoy it with right good cheer."

4) Qadi to perform the nikkah (Khutbah tun Nikah)


Also sister, be weary of brothers that want to marry you in "secret" and not seek your wali's permission and do things according to Shariah, inshaAllah. This is a protection for yourself.

Hopes this helps

Thank you so much,

That is no marriage at all. A marriage is formalized in the presence of at least two witnesses. It is also good to have parental blessings on your marriage. Solemnisation in the presence of God is not a waste of time either for He is the author of marriage.