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trime0603
Jun 8, 2009, 09:34 PM
I'm in the middle of a custody battle. The other day my ex gave me a bag of mail that was mailed to "our" address, I had to move to get away from him, he was mentally and verbally abusive. But in the bag of mail was a letter with a yellow sticker "return to sender" he sent me a letter through the court "notice for trial", he sent it to an address that he said the court had but the address was a P.O. Box from 6 years ago. I called the clerk of courts and she told me he gave them that address. He knew I didn't have a mailbox, but he didn't have a problem giving the Sheriff's Office the address when he wanted them to do a well baby check. He is playing games and now I know what I have to look forward to in court but is there anything I can do about this?? :mad:

justcurious55
Jun 9, 2009, 11:15 AM
Document everything. And if you can afford it, get a really good attorney. Don't sink to his level. Don't engage in his games. He wants to upset you. Be above it. People like this (he sounds like my own parents) have a way of digging their own graves. The courts and law enforcement see when people are giving them the run around and they don't like it.
My father used to call the pd every time my little siblings and me were at my aunt and uncle's. He even went so far as to claim that my uncle was sexually abusing my baby sister (there was absolutely no evidence of this whatsoever nor had their ever been any previous issues of the sort with my uncle. He's the sort of guy that would be punished for killing a child molester before he ever touched a child). This only went on for about a month though. Every time it happened we fully cooperated with the police, they came and saw that there was absolutely nothing wrong and in the end the sheriff ended calling my father and telling him not to call anymore and threatening to charge him (basically with abusing the system. I don't know the exact charge.) if he pulled that again.

ScottGem
Jun 9, 2009, 11:19 AM
You really should have an attorney. The attorney will tell you how to make use of this evidence.

Family courts are not big on fighting like this so you could antagonize the court if you try using it incorrectly.