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foolinflorida
Jun 1, 2009, 04:38 PM
My Girlfriend and I have been dating for about a year with a small break up six months ago . For the past few weeks she has been ignoring me . Something is eating at her and I can't get her to tell me what it is. I don't want to sound needy and I don't want her to see that it is bothering me . It is to the point that I can ask her a simple question and I get a lot of attitude, I feel the brunt of it But I can see that she is short at her daughter too.
I tell her that I love her ,she sayes it back and she only say it to me first rarely .
Sex has all but disappeared and she stays on the opposite side of the Bed .
What can I do . The break up six months ago hurt like no other , she was the one that came back she sad that she couldn't say away. We have talked about marriage but mostly in joking . I want to marry her . But I am not sure if this is the right time . Will this fix my problem ? Maybe . Or could this be the last chance I get .

Help want can I do , Or is there nothing I can do and just wait it out .

ajGambino
Jun 1, 2009, 10:08 PM
Getting deeper in a relationship by getting married will not strengthen your relationship, so get off that idea. If things are bothering you or see that she's bothered, sit her down to talk.

Communication is very important between you two and if you can't talk to each other, this may end up a sad story.

Romefalls19
Jun 2, 2009, 05:28 AM
Marriage won't solve your problems. You have to give her space right now, if she won't open up, there's really nothing you can do to make her open up. She will come and talk to you eventually, but for now I say give her space.

The drought in sex, welcome to the world my friend. Maybe people on this board, including myself, have or are going through what they call the dry spell

talaniman
Jun 2, 2009, 03:43 PM
What was this small break up about?

foolinflorida
Jun 3, 2009, 03:18 PM
I doesn't matter much now . She finally came out and said that she doesn't love me .
She said she had tried but couldn't. She said I treated her better than anyone else before.
And I hope that I did . The first breakup was for the same reason . I asked her why she came back and she said the reason was that she couldn't stand to see me hurting so bad. So she tried to love me again.
I told her before I left the one thing that I pray for most is her happiness. So right now I am trying to deal with it the best I can.

liz28
Jun 3, 2009, 04:12 PM
I was going say she is going break-up with you but she already told you.

Sometimes people grow apart and there is nothing you can do if they don't want to work things out.

I think you greatly care about her but sometimes you have let go and move on. And don't ever think about marrying someone when things aren't right because if things aren't right before marriage they damn sure aren't going be right after the "I do's".

Correct me if I'm wrong but if the two of you live together then the two of you need to talk to find out what you going to do about the living situation.

Sorry this happen but some how I think you knew this was going to happen but you wasn't ready to face it. The upside to this is that life goes on.