Hello,

My name is Renae and I am in year 10 at Hampton SHS.
I hate school, I hate how I don't have many friends that I could hang out with, and if I do hang out with a friend I would feel uncomfortable and embarrassed with that person. Don't think I’m being selfish or anything, it's just how I feel. My friends are defiantly not popular or attractive and they are always depressed and behave strangely. I try my best to comfort them, show them I care, but they never take me seriously. I felt rejected.

When this guy who is my Major crush sees me with my friends I would feel nervous and pretend I don't know those people. He is V. popular and great looking. I on the other hand are not popular and not that bad looking. People keep telling me that I am pretty and I shouldn't be so hard on myself. I would try and impress the popular people by doing up my hair, or wearing makeup-i hate makeup I hate the way it feels on my skin and my skin is V. pale so it’s a pity that I look a bit like a clown!

WHAT SHOULD I DOOOOO?
I just want to be happy again, you know?
I want friends that I enjoy hanging out with, what can I do, make new friends?
That’s impossible because half the person in the school hates my guts for some odd reasons.
And the other half aren’t that friendly or just as strange.
Should I move school and hope for the best or what?

Please help me!

Thanks for your time. ;)

You'd be surprised how many kids actually feel the same as you. I thought all the girls at my school had loads of friends. Years later I was talking to quite a few girls I had gone to school with and they said they really didn't have any friends either.

Hey Renae, I had the same problem in high school. I didn't hang out with the popular girls and all of the popular guys would talk to me when the girls weren't around and then when they came around the guys would treat me like I wasn't even there. It was so not cool. I hated high school. I didn't really have any friends and the ones that I did have were pretty much outcasts, so my advice for you is to just keep your head up. You only have two more years left. Once people are done with high school they move on and go do their own thing. Some people go out of state for college, some people go do their own thing and not go to college.

In the mean time, I would just try to make more friends by talking to different people. Just spark up a conversation with someone who is sitting next to you in class. See what they did the previous weekend. See what they like to do and if you have any similar intrests. Most popular clicks stay together and don't let anyone else into the group, so don't think that it is just you. I didn't fit in the popular group because I wasn't pretty enough, I didn't fit in because I didn't wear the expensive clothes that the popular kids wore and I didn't live in a big expensive house.

I know that getting through high school is hard and trying at times, espically when you don't really have too many friends. Just be yourself, don't try to change yourself to fit in with others.

Why doesn't half of the school like you?

I don't think that changing schools will help any. I went to three different high schools and they were all pretty much the same. There were still all these different clicks and I never fit into any of them. Try to find one or two people that you really get along with and stick with them. It would be better to have one or two really good genuine friends, than to have a bunch of fake friends. Good luck.