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kelli 45
May 23, 2009, 05:19 AM
Hi I have been in a relationship for nearly two years and love this man very much. We broke up as he went away to work and had met som;eone else. This broke me as I did every thing for this man. He has a drinking problem and did do drugs. But that has stopped. I find he is hard to understand. He can sit from 7 am in the morning to late at night and read a book. If he is not doing this he is usulually having a drink somewhere. I feel unsure about this. He begged me to take him back and I did . He promised that he had changed. When he drinks he gets angry. He has two sets of rules. I can not be socializing in a place where I have an ex. When he and his ex wife see each o;ther tey hug and she tells me she still loves him. He tells me she did want him back. Her and I became friends in the time he and I were apart. She said she likes me and the daughters do to. I find it hard to watch them hug and kiss on the cheek.they say they do it to keep the girls happy I understand this. But he gets angry if I talk to my ex he knows my ex still loves me as well. I am so confused

myuz
May 23, 2009, 02:02 PM
Sounds like he's very hypocritical and not being fair to you at all. You can't be somewhere an ex might be yet he can hug and kiss his ex?

No offense but this man sounds like a future wife beater... with the major alcohol problem and being angry when he drinks...

I wish
May 23, 2009, 03:34 PM
You might still have feelings for him, but there are WAY TOO MANY obstacles for you to be happy with him. That is not an ideal relationship.

There are better men out there who don't have a drinking problem and won't be hypocritical, who can make you much happier. Why don't you give them a chance and give yourself a chance to be with someone who will make you happy? Instead of having to worry about so many things.