dincher
May 20, 2009, 04:57 PM
Today I had court to sue my ex husband for half of the marital debt. Needless to say, I still have feelings for him, however, I did not do anything to let him know this.
A little background - my ex left me 3 years ago - long story short, after ten years of marriage, I found out that he was cheating on me with his coworker (who had only started working at his office for a month - so I know the relationship was fairly new).
When I found that out, not only was I pain stricken, but it wasn't even two weeks before one day I came home and found out that he had moved out of our home and into her house. A day later, I was mailed divorce papers. I was shocked and couldn't function on a day to day basis, as my marriage of ten years had fallen apart in a matter of two weeks.
My question is this: My ex husband - ever since I found out that he cheated on me, has treated me as if I did something wrong. He treats me very angrily, and does not even address me at all. In fact, this is why we're in court - because he does not want to settle our debt as he doesn't even speak to me. Once he moved out, his girlfriend has been the one threatening me and emailing and calling me etc etc. I just don't understand it.
Why is my ex husband angry with me? I wasn't the one who cheated and who broke our ten year marriage. In fact, during our ten years together, my ex husband and I were very affectionate towards each other. We'd never have any fights, and the little ones that we did have well, we were able to make up very quickly.
So I just wonder where all the anger comes from.
A little background - my ex left me 3 years ago - long story short, after ten years of marriage, I found out that he was cheating on me with his coworker (who had only started working at his office for a month - so I know the relationship was fairly new).
When I found that out, not only was I pain stricken, but it wasn't even two weeks before one day I came home and found out that he had moved out of our home and into her house. A day later, I was mailed divorce papers. I was shocked and couldn't function on a day to day basis, as my marriage of ten years had fallen apart in a matter of two weeks.
My question is this: My ex husband - ever since I found out that he cheated on me, has treated me as if I did something wrong. He treats me very angrily, and does not even address me at all. In fact, this is why we're in court - because he does not want to settle our debt as he doesn't even speak to me. Once he moved out, his girlfriend has been the one threatening me and emailing and calling me etc etc. I just don't understand it.
Why is my ex husband angry with me? I wasn't the one who cheated and who broke our ten year marriage. In fact, during our ten years together, my ex husband and I were very affectionate towards each other. We'd never have any fights, and the little ones that we did have well, we were able to make up very quickly.
So I just wonder where all the anger comes from.