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cavassey25
May 16, 2009, 05:48 PM
My question involves parental rights. Iam having a child with a women I don't know and she dose not want me to be apart of this child's life, how do sign over all my rights and do I have to pay child support
N0help4u
May 16, 2009, 06:14 PM
You are having a baby you don't have any rights yet. You acknowledge paternal rights when you sign the birth certificate at the hospital. No signature, no paternity established.
If you want to be a part of the child's life you sign the birth certificate and you file for partial custody.
cdad
May 16, 2009, 06:21 PM
No you can't just sign your rights away to the child and yes for at least the next 18 years your expected to support the child. Including child support.
ScottGem
May 16, 2009, 07:09 PM
There are hundreds of threads in this forum that deal with this issue. A few minutes of browsing would have answered your question.
The courts will not let you sign over your rights and you will be held responsible for support if the mother files for support.
Fr_Chuck
May 16, 2009, 07:30 PM
I guess you have to "know" her somewhat. But most likely you can't sign over your rights unless there is someone to adopt.
But in most areas, you would still have to pay support
cavassey25
May 17, 2009, 05:57 PM
I appreciate your answeres, but I have one more question about the situation. I last asked if I could sign over my rights so that I don't have to pay child support. Please don't misunderstand me I would be willing to pay child support if I was able to see the child but she says no I don't want you being apart of this child's life in any way yet she wants my money wow huh. Well the question is can I sign my rights over to the mother so I don't have to pay child support when the baby is born or should I just get full custody of the baby I have plenty of money and more importantly a stable and loving environment she has nothing to offer this baby in fact her life is very bad from what she tells me so. Full custody or sign rights away
Fr_Chuck
May 17, 2009, 06:32 PM
First most likely you can't do either. You may file for joint custody if you live near where the mother is. But unless you can prove the mother is a danger to the child you are not going to get full or sole custody.
Next sorry no you can't sign over your rights without the judges approval and this seldom happens just so you don't have to pay child support.
So you may look at joint custody or visitation. Don't care or worry about what the mother said as to you not seeing the child, you go to court and get a visitation order, if she tries to stop it, you drag her into court on contempt.
So if you have plenty of money, time to spend it on an attorney to work out the details.
Meredith1978
May 19, 2009, 06:36 AM
First child visitation and child support are two separate issues, you're going to have to take her to court for an enforcable parenting plan.
The court won't even take you serious if you refuse to pay child support based on her denying visitation because its separate in the eyes of the court.
If you get the parenting plan, the visitation can be enforced by the court either through a supervised transfer (the YMCA, the police, and a few other places where I live assist with this) the police are the last resort because that can be rather traumatizing, but for $2 each time the YMCA will do the transfer and if she doesn't show she can be in contempt and risks custody of the child if it continues. You have to follow procedure or you just make the whole thing more complicated.
Find out who does it in your area.
ScottGem
May 19, 2009, 06:56 AM
Several points here. First some housekeeping. I merged your two threads. Please do not start a new thread for a follow-up question. Use the Answer This Question options. Since this is a legal question it belongs in the Family Law forum where I moved the original to.
In response to your first post you got answers that told you the courts will not allow you to relinquish rights to get out of paying support. I also suggested that you browse the hundreds of similar threads to find answers to your questions.
There are more choices then relinquish rights or full custody. Especially since neither are likely to happen. As noted, the courts will not allow you to relinquish rights so forget that. And to get full custody you would have to prove the mother unfit. Not likely to happen.
One of your problems is that you think the mom is in total control here. And she's not. She can't legally keep you out of YOUR child's life if you want to be in it. If she files for child support, then you counter file for joint custody and visitation. While the two are independent, she would have to rpove you unfit to deny you visitation.