OK... I would like to know how to massage and play with his butt properly. I can't seem to get that great feeling going on and I thought maybe I was holding my fingers the wrong way or something. Should I not do oral sex and masage his rectum? The prostate is what I'm trying to stimulate and I'm not doing a very good job.

Some advice. Don't be shy. :D

Don't be shy, Be shy of what exactly.

There is lots of info out there. Google it.

How do I pleasure somebody anal.

Here is one example question and answer.

Go Ask Alice!: Anal stimulation ain't just for gay men (http://www.goaskalice.columbia.edu/1490.html)

Dont be shy, Be shy of what exactly.

There is lots of info out there. Google it.

How do I pleasure somebody anal.

Here is one example question and answer.

Go Ask Alice!: Anal stimulation ain't just for gay men (http://www.goaskalice.columbia.edu/1490.html)


Shy about answering... some people may feel uncomfortable typing an answer even though they may have great advice.

I have googled, now I'm just asking. We could Google anything really and get the answer, so who would need this forum then?

I will check out the link you gave me. Thank you!

Find a diagram of the male body...
Know where his prostate is... this is the part you want to be pressing against and playing with.

Can't really give specifics as to how to 'please him' as every guy is different, you will have to ask him, if you are too embarrassed to ask him them don't do it.

Try talking to him... I'm sure guys are just like women and not all like the same thing the same way.

OK...i would like to know how to massage and play with his butt properly. I can't seem to get that great feeling going on and i thought maybe i was holding my fingers the wrong way or something. should i not do oral sex and masage his rectum? the prostate is what im trying to stimulate and im not doing a very good job.

some advice. don't be shy. :D

My fiancé loves anal action. While we are having sex he will put himself in positions which allow me to have better access to his hole.
When I do it I make sure my finger is wet, using spit turns him on the most. Then I just push on the outside of the hole first. He will let me know when to put it deeper. He is very abrupt as to what he wants me to do to him.
Tell your man you want him to be in charge next time. Tell him that your finger is going in there and moan to him in a sexy voice that you want him to tell you what to do with it. After that you should know exactly what he wants and you can do it on your own.

Oh we definitely talk about he likes the massaging and when I slide my finger in a little. Then he says it feels uncomfortable once I'm more then an inch in. during sex I can't reach his butt, so I was thinking of a anal plug maybe.

I just thought others suggestions would be interesting. Thanks

My fiance loves anal action. While we are having sex he will put himself in positions which allow me to have better access to his hole.
When I do it I make sure my finger is wet, using spit turns him on the most. Then I just push on the outside of the hole first. He will let me know when to put it deeper. He is very abrupt as to what he wants me to do to him.
Tell your man you want him to be in charge next time. Tell him that your finger is going in there and moan to him in a sexy voice that you want him to tell you what to do with it. After that you should know exactly what he wants and you can do it on your own.

Thank you...

Most important things is for him to be completely relaxed.
Very lubricated.
And finally, willing.

Anal plugs can be great, you can get some very skinny ones to start with. Personally I think a finger would be better as you can actually push around and stimulate things better.
During oral sex would be the best time to do it.

Then try experimenting with him... try different things see what works for him.

Mmm be careful, some women think that the prostate is the goal-actually is is more pleasurable to have the entrance and walls of the anus stimulated then move onto the prostate-don't poke around trying to HIT the spot. Slide and move in and out slowly. As will all sexual activity-this is not always true for every person-ASK questions of your partner.

Just let him enjoy by you this pleasure...

Your partner is your best teacher.He will tell you there is good or there is not.

The first few times can be just for experimentation purposes.Sex should be fun and you have to be able to laugh and joke around as well as have deep intimate sex.

Not everyone likes the same amount of stimulation or in the same spot.

Try giving him oral with just your finger inserted and when he is near ejaculation tell him to let you know and then very slowly remove it.
It is supposed to be a nice rush.

Just noticed this thread is from May.Sure hope she found his male G spot by now :)

Look at it this way... men and women BOTH have buttholes... what feels good for you? This is one of those rare occaisions it would be nearly the same for either. Except for guys having the prostrate thing too.