I have a boyfriend of 9 months and it seems like all we do is argue, and then make up. But we never really talk about anything because one of us ends up getting angry then we stop talking about it. I feel like we really need to just do something him & I to see if the sparks in our relationship are even still there.. If we talk about breaking up, it never seems to happen. BUT then again I seen a text message in his phone saying "na i can't pound it in the cooler bc they will hear u trust me".. when I asked him about this, he responded with that he didn't mean it and that he said that he couldn't have sex with her, but I felt like the reason why he said no was unappropriate to say.. when he's mad at me, he tells me he hates me but then tells me he loves me that he is not going anywheres, and he wants to be with me... I need a guys perpesctive because I cannot determine how he feels or if any behavior is trying to hint me something

Its not so with my boyfriend but reading your entry, I could instantly relate . Me and my best friend are justd same .This year, we passed out of school and feel miserable without each other and we know we can't go to the same college because our areas of interest are very different . We know that we love each other in spite of our constant fights . Wat I want to say is it might be the same with you and your man. Try talking about it with him and if it sparks another fight, stay away for a while and see if you feel OK. Then decide


Besta luck!