fvo_africa
May 10, 2009, 12:57 PM
Ok, so I've been with my boyfriend for 6 months and love him very much. :o
But recently I met a new friend, and he and I are one-in-the same. We agree on numerous things and are really fun and outgoing people and ALWAYS have a good time together. We've become best friends in a rather short amount of time. In addition, we exercise together every week day, and we've hung out quite a bit. And I find myself beginning to have feelings for him, and they seem to be more and more apparent recently. The comfort I get when I'm with my boyfriend, like "nothing could hurt me" or w/e I'm beginning to get with my friend. (plus it doesn't help that my family loves him, and they really want me to be w/him rather than my current bf)
I don't believe my friend has the same feelings for me as I do for him, and I know he's recently started talking to another girl. I find myself getting jealous/hurt, but I ignore those feelings and encourage him 100% cause I know he's been looking for a good girlfriend for awhile, and he deserves to be happy. We do flirt on occasions, but I know we are both really outgoing people, and our actions can just be taken that way, but when I'm with him I feel really happy. And when I'm with my boyfriend, I feel incredibly guilty.
My boyfriend and I get along really well, and I really do love him, but these feeling I'm beginning to have for my friend, I can't ignore for much longer. Cause I miss my friend and/or am thinking about him frequently, and I know it's UNFAIR to my boyfriend.
I know I'd rather have my friend in my life as a friend, than to not have him in it at all, but I really don't know what to do.
Should I just give it time and see if these feelings die down, or should I explain the situation to my boyfriend, risk getting dumped, and possibly be left alone. Or should I talk to my friend and risk losing him too. :(
Please help! :confused:
But recently I met a new friend, and he and I are one-in-the same. We agree on numerous things and are really fun and outgoing people and ALWAYS have a good time together. We've become best friends in a rather short amount of time. In addition, we exercise together every week day, and we've hung out quite a bit. And I find myself beginning to have feelings for him, and they seem to be more and more apparent recently. The comfort I get when I'm with my boyfriend, like "nothing could hurt me" or w/e I'm beginning to get with my friend. (plus it doesn't help that my family loves him, and they really want me to be w/him rather than my current bf)
I don't believe my friend has the same feelings for me as I do for him, and I know he's recently started talking to another girl. I find myself getting jealous/hurt, but I ignore those feelings and encourage him 100% cause I know he's been looking for a good girlfriend for awhile, and he deserves to be happy. We do flirt on occasions, but I know we are both really outgoing people, and our actions can just be taken that way, but when I'm with him I feel really happy. And when I'm with my boyfriend, I feel incredibly guilty.
My boyfriend and I get along really well, and I really do love him, but these feeling I'm beginning to have for my friend, I can't ignore for much longer. Cause I miss my friend and/or am thinking about him frequently, and I know it's UNFAIR to my boyfriend.
I know I'd rather have my friend in my life as a friend, than to not have him in it at all, but I really don't know what to do.
Should I just give it time and see if these feelings die down, or should I explain the situation to my boyfriend, risk getting dumped, and possibly be left alone. Or should I talk to my friend and risk losing him too. :(
Please help! :confused: