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katyahawaii
May 7, 2009, 12:35 AM
Aloha:
I don't know where to start, My grandson is 15 years old and he is been living with me since he was 6 months old when his mother die.
His father is no where to be found, I know the police is looking for him for the last 2 years we haven't hear from him or see him for at least 5 years is any chance I can adopt him he cannot get his diving permit or anything with out his dad consent I been told that I should adopt him our live will be so much easier
Where can I start
Aloha from Hawaii

BIGBOPPER
May 7, 2009, 02:22 AM
Have you tried talking to an attorney who specializes in adoptions?
They might be able to help you. I'm pretty sure that you will have to get one eventually, but don't quote me on that.
Also try this website, Adopting - Adopt a Baby, Child, Infants, Kids, Older, Services, International, Information China - (http://www.adopting.org/). Maybe they can answer your questions more thoroughly.

Synnen
May 7, 2009, 05:43 AM
You need a lawyer. Period.

You need to get the biological father to sign away his parental rights in order for you to adopt. If he will not do that, you have a fight on your hands.

Get a lawyer. You may have other options (such as legal guardianship) besides adoption, but you're going to need a lawyer to figure out which is in the best interest of the kid.

ScottGem
May 7, 2009, 05:58 AM
You should have no problem getting legal guardianship. This should relieve much of your problems. This shouldn't be expensive. But you should deal with a lawyer on this.

If you can get a deposition from the officer in charge of his case, you may be able to use that to have his rights terminated to clear the way for adoption.

BIGBOPPER
May 7, 2009, 10:08 PM
Since you can't find the father, this is going to be difficult. You can hire a private investigator, or Google "people search" sites. If it is the local police looking for him, see if you can find out if they ever caught him. I would still talk to a lwyer, but keep in mind, that the time it would take for you to get in touch with the father, and the time it will take to go through litigation, the boy may be close to eighteen, and able to get a license on his own. If you have trouble paying for a lawyer, look in the blue pages for a legal aid society. They provide little to no cost legal services for people who qualify. They might be able to help you to.