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ak_847
May 5, 2009, 12:22 PM
I need your help people since I am really confused what to do. I was dating my girl since 2 years. Our relationship had a few problems but we somehow go out of them. But the biggest problem now is her mom. Her mom was not too fond of me since day 1 for no reason. A month back I made a terrible mistake I did some crap on her friends Facebook account and I had to confess it. I apologized tried everything I got frustrated and called her again and again. Then she had to tell her mom what the issue was. Now her mom does not like me even more. I respect her mom no doubt any mother will care for her daughter. My girlfriend broke up with me saying we have no future together. Her mom is not going to accept me and even if she does she is not going to be happy. I tried everythin I forced her apologized convinced but that has frustrated her even more. We loved each other a lot. We enjoyed every moment together. I am sure she loves me still and misses me but is forced not to get back. I asked her to take her time to think about it again. She said fine she will think about it. She says we can be friends she will help me get over her which I know is stupid but with this I am just hoping she starts missing me and eventually gets back. I am ready to give her space and time and message her once in a while may be meet up once in 10 days. I need advice I know I have done the right thing now by deciding to give her space and time but I don't know what to do after this. What can I do so that she misses everything. How can I convince her that in future her mom will accept me and we can change my impression in front of her. She knows if we get back I will always be with her but this thing is stopping her. Right now she is very adamant on not getting back. Please help what can I do now or what mistakes I should not make.

Romefalls19
May 5, 2009, 12:27 PM
Leave her alone, my advice has no changed since you posted the past 2 topics. You two are like oil and milk, don't go well together. She doesn't want to be with you, before you end up with a restraining order, walk away!

ak_847
May 5, 2009, 12:43 PM
Leave her alone, my advice has no changed since you posted the past 2 topics. You two are like oil and milk, don't go well together. She doesn't want to be with you, before you end up with a restraining order, walk away!

I agree in any other situation I would have followed your advice. But this has happen before we followed the same pattern. We broke up I forced her she got irritated. I left her alone for a while we decided to be friends met and eventually got back. Things were great for a year den again this thing came up.

Romefalls19
May 5, 2009, 12:46 PM
So you're okay with on and off again relationships? Doesn't stability sound a little better?

ak_847
May 5, 2009, 01:02 PM
So you're okay with on and off again relationships? Doesn't stability sound a little better?

I won't exactly call it an on and off relationship. We are stable but there are only a couple of obstructions which I believe we should cross rather than falling to them. I don't mean to contradict you. If I was in your place I would have given the same advice but may be its tough for a third unknown person to know our nature the situation and the depth of our relationship. Thanks a lot for your advice may be in the end I may have to follow it.

Romefalls19
May 5, 2009, 01:04 PM
Here's what I know

- You were together, then broke up
- You tried to contact her and she didn't want to be with you
- You ignored her
- She came back
- Things went okay for awhile
- Now she's ended it again
- And you want her back

This says on and off again relationship, I'm not trying to be harsh, I've just been where you are before

I wish
May 5, 2009, 01:05 PM
Sounds like you are blaming her mom a lot for the breakup. It's not her mom's fault.

And it's not only the mistakes that you did in the past. The problem is that the two of you don't match. You had your good times... but now that you know each other better, she realized that you're not the one she wants to be with. You just have to take some time to realize the same thing she does.