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I'm a college student and this year there has been one boy who I have had a thing for the whole year. Every time we see each other he stares at me and make very direct eye contact. His friends all stay stuff to me referring to me as his "wifey" and other immature comments. He is very shy but every time we are at a party together he makes sure to say hello or start a conversation. He never takes his eyes off me, but this has been going on since September. However just last week he sent me a text message after being at the same party and wanted me to come see him. Due to the lateness in time I never went. But I am so extremely interested in him and to me it just feels so real and so right but I have no clue. Is he into me?

Lol, your post is so cute. Yes! I think he has a crush on you and just doesn't know how to put his cards on the table and let you know that he is In fact into you. You should meet up with him and see what he has to say.

Good luck, keep us posted

I think he already give you a hint by texting you to go see him at night! If he is interested, he'll ask you to hang out again!

=] good luck! Give him a little hint, too...

I don't see anything wrong with getting to know him. Maybe meet for lunch or coffee. I think it was wise in not going to see him at night because it would've sent the wrong message.

He may just be shy; some people warm up once they get to know someone and you may not in fact have to "teach him to be a boyfriend".

Just don't overthink it and have fun. :)

He is definitely attracted to you. When he sent you the text, did you text him back? You should text him asking to meet at a mutually convenient time.

Thanks for the feed back. Yes I did text him back but we agreed not to meet that night. Since then I have only seen him socially never one on one however when ever we talk in a group he seems to be discussing the conversation towards me. But with the school year ending soon and summer starting how do I speed this process up?

I think he lacks experience. He doesn't really know what to do. Just keep in mind, if you start dating, you're going to fin that he's very innocent and lack experience. So you will have to be his girlfriend and his boyfriend guide at the same time.

Chances are he's too scared to get rejected by you. So maybe as a possible future guy, you should consider making the first move to help him out a bit to get the ball rolling.

If you have his number, can't you just call him over the summer? What's there to speed? You'll have more free time in the summer.

We don't live very close to each other and Id like to have some kind of establishment before the summer

I'm a college student and this year there has been one boy who I have had a thing for the whole year. Everytime we see eachother he stares at me and make very direct eye contact. His friends all stay stuff to me referring to me as his "wifey" and other immature comments. He is very shy but everytime we are at a party together he makes sure to say hello or start a conversation. He never takes his eyes off of me, but this has been going on since september. However just last week he sent me a text message after being at the same party and wanted me to come see him. Due to the lateness in time i never went. But I am so extremely interested in him and to me it just feels so real and so right but I have no clue. Is he into me?

OK girl this is what you need 2 do real talk I go through this a lot well you need 2 ask him if he want to chill with u 1 day and if he say yea don't get 2 happy about that when you go and chill just stay cool don't b all over him and don't try 2 hard let him come to you and if he start 2 coe to you well you may have something;)

You are posting on the adult boards, not the teen boards. Please don't use text speak - there is no particular hurry to get your answer out there.

ok gurl this is what u need 2 do real talk i go through this alot well u need 2 ask him if he wanna chill with u 1 day and if he say yea dnt get 2 happy about that wen yall go and chill just stay cool dnt b all over him and dnt try 2 hard let him come 2 u and if he start 2 coe 2 u well u may have something;)

Lol spoken like a true pro, good luck girlie tell us how it goes:)

Ok if you have read my other post you know I am into one boy so much. And I feel like there is jut something that clicks like something feels so real even though we aren't together at all. I feel like I am in love with boy I hardley know and he feels like the one. Can this be true?

Honestly, that sounds a little creepy.

How about trying to talk to him first, see if you guys have things in common.

Slow your roll buck-o.

Sarah

ok gurl this is what u need 2 do real talk i go through this alot well u need 2 ask him if he wanna chill with u 1 day and if he say yea dnt get 2 happy about that wen yall go and chill just stay cool dnt b all over him and dnt try 2 hard let him come 2 u and if he start 2 coe 2 u well u may have something;)

Why are you contradicting yourself Uniqua? On your last post in another thread you said you were in love with another boy and were wanting to get married. Someone that has this going on does not ask other guys to "chill with you" because they seem interested.

Don't believe me here is the thread (https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/marriage/am-ready-get-married-344301-2.html) and here is what you wrote:


ok iamb n da same iamb iamb with this boy and i love him 2 and we plan 2 get married but any way i think u shocked follow yo heart if u really do love dis girl u shouldnt car what anybody else say thats what i do and i think if u really explain it 2 yo parents they will understand if they dint than it



I'm calling you out and saying : troll.

Sarah

Ok if you have read my other post you know I am into one boy so much. And I feel like there is jut something that clicks like something feels so real even tho we aren't together at all. I feel like I am in love with boy I hardley know and he feels like the one. Can this be true?

Actually, that sounds like your primal urges to mate and have babies are getting the better of your thinking. Hormones are running wild, and if you don't keep them in check, you'll find yourself suffering, but unable to correct it as you are too attatched to some one. The movies kind of love may exist, but it's not very likely. Love at first sight. Ok, what is love then? Are we like animals still, we see some one we are attracted to and we just jump them? Yes I know that's not what you mean, but you are saying you love some one you don't really know.

Question: Do you love yourself? Really? Do you know yourself?

Perhaps you may look into learning to control your "Feelings" and pay more attention to the mind, no the brain. Yes two different things. The brain is that strange spongy thing your teachers are telling you to use. The mind, that is the thoughts that control it, and they affect one another, so do pay attention to both.

So, what is love to you?

It's not the movie kind of love at first sight, we've had many conversations and have socially hung out on many occasions just never that one on one I desire.

It's not the movie kind of love at first sight, we've had many conversations and have socially hung out on many occasions just never that one on one I desire.

Sorry the wayt you said it above made it sound like that. Leave it to me to misinterpret:rolleyes:, meh.

Hmmm, why not just ask him out, who cares if he likes you. He doesn't know you, or you two would be dating by now. Either put your foot forwad or stop thinking aoubt it and focus on, oh I don't know, school? Haha Really why sit here and ask us questions if he likes you. We know only what you tell us, odds are we'll come to the same conclution you would. Then again maybe not.

Ask him for something casual like coffee, and just get to know him. Then go from there, either keep that up, or start going to movies and such.

Good luck, and may peace and kindness be with you.

JudyKayTee, you are entitled to your opinion, all four in the last 3-weeks. Thank you for your comments, May peace and kindness be with you.

I was simply stating what I though to be true based upon my understanding of "Love" "attraction" and the neurological asspects of the brain, and what I precive to be "basic instincts". Then I was asking "siriously" those questions. "Unnecessarily patronizing."-JudyKayTee I can see where you'd get that, but to be fair, you leave no evidence in your comment, and so, I'm sorry I can't not explain myself better. My apologies.

Peace and kindness be with you.

Thanks everyone for the feedback and I actually have good news! We are both from NY and both go to school in PA so we kind of bond by that. All of our serious conversations are about home and how even though we are from way diff. parts of New York it still bonds us. Anyway Friday night I went away and didn't even think about him but Saturday night he texted me! He said he had some friends up from home and he wanted them to have a good weekend and hang out withsome cool and he was like so I figured id hit you up I mean you are from NY and that alone makes you cool. So we met up at a party at the party there were a lot of people but we still managed to have a few conversations but as we were walking back from the party as I proceeded to go towards my block with my friends he called us back and was like oh you girls don't want to hang out anymore, come back to my house were all still chillen. So me and my girlfriend went back to his house and we all just hung out there was 3 of them and 2 of us and no matter what he was talking about he seemed to be telling only me. Even to the point where one of his friends was like "can I hear the story too" He was very flirty and even teasing me a little about being from "fake ny" I told him all about my little one night get away on Friday and he proceeded to tell me all about the one time he went to the place Ihad gone. I can tell he didn't want me to leave when I did But I was glad I did. I just don't know what to do cause now there are only 2 weeks left. Suggestions?

I posted that on another thread and just thought maybe you guys had some feedback as well, I hope so :confused:

Talk to him, open and honest, flat out, up front, no beating around the bush. Tell him you like him, and what you'd like to have happen, and ask him what he thinks.

Peace and kindness be with you.

I'm a little to nervous to just come out and be like hey I want you to be my boyfriend. Id like to get him to be my boyfriend and then bring up being serious you know?

Ok so you want a relationship with him then? I thought you just wanted to have a fling! Well if your looking @ this guy like for the long term then you really need to talk to him. He can't read your mind and the only way he's going to know what your thinking/intentions are if you talk to him about it.

Look based on your post he seems like a pretty cool guy and he may be equally as shy as yourself. So just upon up to him verbally and let him know, where your coming from. If you don't know what to say well write it down and rehearse a few times

Thanks. That's actually the best advice anyone has ever given me. I think I want to say something lke listen I know it has been building up all year and I know summer is right around the corner I hope we can manage to keep in touch the summer because the year is almost over and I don't like the idea of all of this build up going no where? Any good?

Thanks. thats actually the best advice anyone has ever given me. I think I want to say something lke listen I know it has been building up all year and I know summer is right around the corner I hope we can manage to keep in touch the summer because the year is almost over and I don't like the idea of all of this build up going no where? any good?

Lol:) sounds great to me:D

Anyone else have any suggestions?

Ok so my best friend at school is in a very sticky situation with a boy and she always ask me advice but I never know what to say, because I just don't get this boy. Ok so there is this boy and they have been talking/flirting/hanging out since September. They have gone through a million different weird cycles however since like feb. they have had this weird relationship. They hang out almost once a day, and he always text her either to ask her little thing like where she's going, or to borrow something. When they are together they are clearly into each other. However, he has many mood swings and different personalities. When he is in front of other people while he may stare at her he will never talk to her. If they are going to go out some place he won't walk with her to the car, instead he'll meet her on the street, so they won't be seen together. He won't walk into the building at the same time as her and has even hooked up with other girls in front of her. However while he may soundlike a who is just using her its not like that, they have only hooked up twice. Both of them in the beginning of the year. I just don't get why he is that way in public when he always wants to and makes excuse to come see her. They text all the time I just don'tknow what's his deal?

Have you asked her how she feels about this treatment?

Personally I believe that she should find someone new. I wouldn't like to be treated like that! I'm not a big fan of public affection but they won't even talk to each other in public?

And what do you mean by hooking up with other girls?
Just talking to them or full on flirting because that is a major no-no whether she is there or not!

His friends tease me

How old are the both of you?

Does your boyfriend know about his friend behavior?

If so, then he should have address the issue a long time ago especially since it makes you uncomfortable and their his friends. He needs to man up and tell them to cut it out and if they don't then maybe he should consider finding new respectful friends.

If not, then you need to tell him and see what he is doing do. What route is he going take. The let it slip path or say something to them path? Hmm, I would love to know.

How old are you again? Sounds like junior high behavior. Just let your boyfriend know that you feel uncomfortable about his friends' behavior and if he really likes you back, he will take care of it.

They sound really immature, I hope that your boyfriend is nothing like them. As in, I hope your boyfriend doesn't talk like that when he's around his friends' girlfriends. Cause then you will also have to explain to your boyfriend why it's immature.

Sounds like he's embarrassed to be seen with her. Why would your friend wants to get involved with a guy who feels that way? Tell your friend to steer clear from this guy. He's just trouble. If he wants to hide his friendship/relationship with your friend, who knows what else he's hiding.

Yeah I Know its very junior high sad thing is we are college soph. I'll bring it up tonight and then let all you know what he says.