I wouldn't normally post something like this but I'm in a real pickle.

My friend liked this guy who's 2 years older than us for a few years now. About 2 years ago people pressured him into asking her out and they went out for only a day but he couldn't be with her cause its not what he wanted.

After that, I didn't like him because of that and never though to give him a chance.

Then a few weeks ago we got talking on msn and got quite close. Throughout the whole time I kept asking her if it was okay and how she felt but she kept saying it was my choice she didn't care.

So my friends met up with him and it was all grand. He was really fun to be with and so on. Later that night he told me we should meet up just me and him sometime and he meant really soon. The only thing I could think about was my friend but she keeps guilt tripping me by saying she'll get over it and its her problem not mine. I don't think this is fair, I value her opinion way over his or even mine in this situation.

Bottom line is, if this is really hurting her, which she tells our other best friends but not me, I don't want to do anything with him but then its going to hurt him. I think it'll hurt her more than him though and to me friends are above boys.

Any advice/help?

Take her out somewhere, you and her, have a "girls night out", wow... I can't believe I said that... but any ways, take her out, just the two of her, sit her down, and ask her to be hanest, as a friend
If that doesnr work, drugs work, pot... I'm kidding... it works though

Haha, that made me laugh.

Anyway, *hugs not drugs!* :)

Thanks.

Yep, I agree with I<3!

A word of advice for the future: Whenever you are in a situation where they should be feeling something, and even if they say "I don't care" they DO care, but think you don't want to know. You need to make sure they know you NEED to know, for you own sanity. XD

Friend's ex's are usually off limits... It's hurtful and a friend will feel betrayed in most cases. Not all... but that is a pretty tight spot you're in. Do you like this guy?

Yes, a lot, he's just got my name written all over him.
He wants everything I want out of life and it's amazing how alike we are.
But I can't do that to my friend, we decided that I should wait a while and if I still like him then we can rethink it but I'm not sure.