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Natasha44
Apr 15, 2009, 02:27 PM
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:confused:Well, I am completely in love with my best friend, and I know that he loves me too. Yet, he says he can't be with me because he is confused about his sexual orientation. The fact that he maybe swinging the other way, does not seem to have any effect on the way I feel, I still love him deeply. He seems to shy away from me, and seems scared to talk to me about it. He still hasn't been able to discuss it with me, and wrote it out.

I wish there was something I could do to help him, and myself to get over him.

He says he loves me, but can't be with me, because he doesn't want to put me through the "trauma" of his experimentation.

What do I do?

snow124
Apr 15, 2009, 03:24 PM
Appreciate his honesty, and realize you can't be with him.

liz28
Apr 15, 2009, 03:40 PM
If your feelings are too deep for him, which I think it is, maybe you should limit yourself around him. I am sure he would understand.

talaniman
Apr 16, 2009, 09:05 AM
Do what he says, and let him experiment, and find himself.

shazamataz
Apr 16, 2009, 09:15 AM
You can either respect his wishes to not partake in sexual activities with you.

Or

Talk to him about it again.
Remember though, you have to be prepared for the emotional rollercoaster of him experimenting with other people and also sleeping with you then possibly deciding that he is homosexual.
Also be wary of your friendship changing afterwards, he may feel awkward after being with you sexually.

Edited as a meant to say homo not hetro

artlady
Apr 16, 2009, 09:21 AM
You are not going to change his orientation by any means.If you think that is even a remote possibility,you need to know it won't happen.
Respect him and give him the support a friend would and do not compound his current situation by asking for more than he can give.