How do I make sex with my husband more interesting not meaning that we do not emjoy our sex life but its just that we would to improve

Lots of things!!
Porn (watching and/or re-enacting)
Toys (he can use them on you or watch you use them yourself)
Roleplaying (pretending to be a maid and a millionaire etc)
Different Rooms/Places (kitchen bench, dining table, couch)
Body chocolate/Whipped cream (yummy!)
Showers/Baths (slippery and good clean fun)

Give me a minute and I'll think of more lol :D

Just use your imagination...things that turn you on will be things he will Want to try!

Do a little strip tease dance and tie him to a chair, :)
Guys always like that!

Well, the OP'd question is lacking info.

How long together? How often do you have sex? Does he hit orgasm often? Do you? What does he seem to like best? What do you seem to like best? What is your "routine" when it comes to sex? Time of day? Do you have kids? Privacy? etc...

Without knowing any of that, one of the best ways, in my realationship, has been to read books about sex and sensual touch.

For ex, when my partner stumbled over a book called She Comes First - A Thinking Man's Guide to Pleasuring a Woman at a local bookstore... and within five minutes of reading said out loud "this guy knows how to go down on a woman!"... it somewhat piquéd my interest.

As in I needed to buy that book.

Sure, we'd had success just fine... but reading about some different ideas and angles intrigued her... and therefore me. And honestly, the few things I tried.. the things that she had dogeared when reading it and then passing on to me... worked like a dream.

Reading about sex or sensual touch allows partners to address issues, desires, wants, needs, dislikes without making it as personal. You are talking about the book, not your partners "failure" to do something.

So... don't know if you have any interest in this, but when my partner reads about massage, and marks pages that sound interesting, I take note. I pay attention.

Something to consider...

Lots of things!!!!
Porn (watching and/or re-enacting)
Toys (he can use them on you or watch you use them yourself)
Roleplaying (pretending to be a maid and a millionaire etc)
Different Rooms/Places (kitchen bench, dining table, couch)
Body chocolate/Whipped cream (yummy!)
Showers/Baths (slippery and good clean fun)

Give me a minute and I'll think of more lol :D

THANK YOU GUYS I REALLY LIKE THIS BUT I DO NOT UNDERSTAND THIS {Toys (he can use them on you or watch you use them yourself)}HOW IS IT DONE?

I mean things like dildos, vibrators, cock rings, handcuffs, sex swings,. the list goes on.

Do you have any adult stores where you are?

There are some really good online sites that you can order from and they arrive packaged in unlabeled boxes so you neighbours are none to wiser ;)

chrissymarie agrees: OP we do need more info about you your husband and your marriage

The OP said that they they both enjoy their sex life, they were just looking for something to 'improve' it... spice it up a bit.

[QUOTE=shazamataz;1669153]I mean things like dildos, vibrators, cock rings, handcuffs, sex swings,. the list goes on.

Do you have any adult stores where you are?

I'm in cape town.is there any that you know of?

Personally no, I'm from pretty much the other side of the world but you could try googling it or looking some up in your local phone book :)
I'm from a city of under 100 thousand people and we have 3 here so the odds are pretty good :)

In the world of the internet, no shop is too far away...

As for toys... do what works for you.

Personally, I love to see my lover self stimulate, whether it with a wet finger or that pretty red vibe... and I'm more than willing to use whatever she wants or needs to get her over the top.

in the world of the internet, no shop is too far away...

as for toys... do what works for you.

personally, i love to see my lover self stimulate, whether it with a wet finger or that pretty red vibe... and im more than willing to use whatever she wants or needs to get her over the top.

I want you.

I want you.

Made my day.

made my day.

Lol well... it was good advice... *drools*

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Also, have you ever tried role playing? This is fun and had spice to your sex life. Dress up in different costumes and play a role.

Sex games are good, well some of them. Before you buy one see what the game is about and if it is to your liking. I brought a few but I ended up throwing a few away because they were boring.

Do you need to try new positions? Sometimes new a position helps instead of repeating the same position over and over.

<edit> You might want to invest in a portable stripper pole. It is fun and can easily be purchase through eBay.

THere are so many ways to make things interesting... not everything works for everyone. You need to find areas that one or the other isn't put off... once you know that then anything goes as long as its consensual. There are a few things that really set off my wife in a good way, I'm not going to reveal them here, but I'm fine with them as long as it remains between me and her.

If you haven't already done so Talk.Ask him what his secret desires are ,ask him to show you what he likes and you do the same.Show him the places on your body that are your *hot spots*.
Show him how to make you orgasm.
The most important thing to spice up your sex life is open honest communication!

Talk to each other about what you both desire in bed. Communication is key!

Talk to each other about what you both desire in bed. Communication is key!


Unfortunately there are people out there who don't know many techniques or ways to have sex other than what is considered "standard"

The OP asked what 'toys' were and asked about where to find adult stores

While yes, communication is key and you have to know what your partner likes/wants out of a relationship and sex some fresh ideas are great too :)

It takes both sides...

A person who is with a partner who is more reserved and naturally more quiet about secret desires... well, they might naturally need some pushing and proding...

I had a love who was aggressive, but only after shed been pushed to a point of critical mass. She could lie there, taking a full back massage, with no verbal cues, no real signs of interest, but once she was relaxed from head to toe, and had a little play in between, she was more than willing to drive the show...

But it took patience and a willingness to be the aggressor, the initiator, most of the time.

So... that love might talk some about what she liked and wanted, but the pattern that got her to that place was just as important as her desires.

20 minutes spendt rubbing her body down and getting the tension out of her was much more important than positions, angles, and action.

Coreplay, not foreplay, was what she needed to make it happen.

Likewise, time spent on my neck and my ears will prime me big time for the main event.

Both are needed... communication about what you like... and a willingness to try out different things while risking "failure"... I guess, if you define a failure to reach orgasm as an overall failure... I think it's a lousy way to rate sex...

Not to diminish the power of an orgasm, but id rather have an attentive lover who tended to desires of personal attention and affection than one who just got'r'dun.

I can get myself off anytime.

The deliberate, focus that a great lover can give, orgasm or not, I have no substitute for.

Darnit.

If I did, id make a helluva lot of coin.

Unfortunately there are people out there who don't know many techniques or ways to have sex other than what is considered "standard"

The OP asked what 'toys' were and asked about where to find adult stores

While yes, communication is key and you have to know what your partner likes/wants out of a relationship and sex some fresh ideas are great too :)

Well the only way she can get of idea of which toys, lotions, positions, and etc to try is to know what turns her partner on the most. He needs to know as well. She'll have no idea what to buy if she goes in there with no idea of what turns her partner on. He may know of some stuff he wants to try too that he's been too nervous to say. You are assuming too much about the OP.

well the only way she can get of idea of which toys, lotions, positions, and etc to try is to know what turns her partner on the most. he needs to know as well. She'll have no idea what to buy if she goes in there with no idea of what turns her partner on. He may know of some stuff he wants to try too that he's been too nervous to say. You are assuming too much about the OP.


Her partner may not know about these things also so I'd say it is you that is assuming too much :)
I said you answer was correct, I just added to it.

[QUOTE=shazamataz;1669153]I mean things like dildos, vibrators, cock rings, handcuffs, sex swings,... the list goes on.

Do you have any adult stores where you are?

im in cape town.is there any that you know of?

You can order all of those things online through various online sex shops

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I get a lot of my toys from them, but I'm local, but I do believe they ship worldwide