I am a 34 yr old wife & a mother to 2 wonderful sons the ages of 4 and 15. My oldest son does not belong to my husband,and that causes a problem in our marriage. I had my oldest when I was 17 and he knew about him the whole time and we have now been married for 9 yrs but been together for a total of 20 yrs off-and-on again in the past. I don't know what to do because I am in love with my oldest sons father and just found out about 4 months ago that him & his wife are getting a divorce- I just don't know how to feel or what to do... any answers for me?:confused:

he knew about him the whole time and we have now been married for 9 yrs but been together for a total of 20 yrs off-and-on again in the past. I dont know what to do because I am in love with my oldest sons father and just found out about 4 months ago that him & his wife are getting a divorce- I just dont know how to feel or what to do....any answers for me?:confused:

With which one have you been on and off with for 20 years? How do you know that you are in love with the first one?

Why is your oldest son a problem with your husband, and what kind of problems is it creating.