I've been married to my husband for over 13 years now and my sex drive has not died down but his has plummeted drastically. We love each other very much and spend as much time with each other going on outings, watching movies and cuddling but the sex is just not there anymore. Sometimes we only have sex once a month. I know he gets angry with me when I ask him if we could make love and I get angry when he turns me down, almost all the time. I use to masturbate but it's not the same anymore. Now I'm turned off to masturbating. How can I turn off to sex?

By the way, I keep myself very busy to keep my mind off sex. I'm a workaholic, have my hobbies and friends. It's the nights that's lonely. I sometimes cry myself to sleep or feel I have to turn myself completely off with no feelings but a wrenching coldness inside me which makes me feel what's the use in being in a relationship. I would rather just turn off the sexual tendencies than everything.

You both need to go see your doctor to-morrow morning.
This is making you miserable and also eventually sick.
See first what the doctor recommends.
You need to be referred to a specialist.

Crush up viagra and put it in his food.

Why not ask him whether there is some particular reason for not wanting sex...

Thanks ROLCAM he has been looking into but I think he needs to talk to someone too but really can't see him seeing anyone about it. I think it's the macho thing... whatever.

R-J-S-InLove his response is that he's just not in the mood. He says its not me it's him and to leave him alone about it. He knows how important it is for me but he just doesn't want to do it any more.

I would go with your husband to a M. D, if I were you and I would ask if it would be possible that your husband needs testosterone. There are times that a male will be low of this harmone and it will lower his desire for sex.