Before we were official, he told me that he wasn't good for me and that he would ask me to do things that I wouldn't want to do.

I told him it was okay, that I would do what I wanted to do.

Has anyone ever told this to you before?

Well no but it sounds like he really cares about you and that he wanted to give you a voice. Well I take that back I dated a guy that was about 2or3 years older than me and he told me that. All that happened was that we missed our curfew a time or two.

What did he want you too do?

What did he want you to do?

Without going into details, he was putting you on notice to either do what he wants, or forget it. That's such a BS rap, and is mostly about him, not you.

Don't you think it was a bit uncaring of him? He could have talked in a better way, and worked with you, but he didn't.

I had a guy in the past tell me he wasn't good enough for me because he didn't have himself together like I did--so I left him alone.

Also, I would never do everything I don't want to do nor feel or be pressure to do something.

Like Tal said, when someone tells you something before hand--listen to them and don't try to change them.

Yes I am sure he warned you of that because he is going to ask you to do something that you might not want to. If your with him then just be yourself. If you don't want to do it then don't. Don't change for someone else's pleasure.

This sounds a little fishy and perhaps borderline manipulative. That's a red flag for me. Cut things off, or wait until the "poop" hits the fan and deal with it then... although it's better to deal with it now... less feelings will get hurt.

I guess in the end it depends on what it is. Keep us posted.

what did he want you too do?


He tried to pressure me into sexually thing and staying out late, it did not last long. I did not like the way he was treating the situation.