Well she is about 9 1/2 months old, she is a mix of poodle and yorkie, she weighs about 4 1/2 pounds, we have tried switching foods many times but its not the food, and its not that she won't eat it's that she won't eat when we put the food out then we have to hand feed her and that gets hard because then what if somebody forgets then will she eat. So the thing is not that she won't eat, it's that she won't eat it then and in her bowl.

You can't hand feed her. Just leave her food down. She will eat it when she gets hungry. She is not going to starve when there is food available.

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I've been through this many, many times.
Don't hand feed her! By starting to feed her by hand you have basically said to her right... you are the boss, I'll do what you want when it should be the other way around.
Try warming her food up a little... make sure it is broken up into small enough pieces she can eat easily and even add something like a small amount of chicken mixed through it.

If she still refuses to eat after a whole day without being hand fed hand feed her but each time you give her a piece move closer to the bowl until you are just touching the food and that should get her used to eating out the bowl again.