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Elijah66
Mar 18, 2009, 03:08 PM
I am in love with a really good friend. We have talked about relationship's and how they need to be taken slow.

I am in love with her and I feel like I might go crazy if I don't tell her soon. She is such a good friend we talk all the time. I have a feeling she like's me but I don't know what to do.

Please tell me what you think?

Clough
Mar 18, 2009, 11:42 PM
Hi, Elijah66!

How long have you known her as a friend?

Thanks!

Elijah66
Mar 19, 2009, 09:28 AM
For one year. I have liked her since I met her. I realized that I am truly in love with her a few day's ago.

Thanks

chrissymarie
Mar 19, 2009, 12:37 PM
What makes you think she may love you too?

Clough
Mar 19, 2009, 09:13 PM
Hi again, Elijah66!

If I were in your shoes, then I would find a time to sit down and speak with her about the way that you feel and tell her that you love her. It's always a risk doing something like that. But, that's one of the ways that serious relationships start.

Thanks!

dontknownuthin
Mar 19, 2009, 09:34 PM
If you want to start in the baby pool before you go off the high dive, you can just ask her out. Ask her out differently than you do as friends... like for dinner, and a movie. And pick up the tab. And pick her up at her house. And if she asks, "is this a date?", tell her, "I'm really, really nervous to say so but I'd sure like for it to be, how would you feel about that?"

It would be a little easier than dumping all your feelings on the table right off the bat.

She probably feels the same way. She feels it from you already.

artlady
Mar 19, 2009, 10:05 PM
If she is such a good friend you should be able to talk easily.
Start talking about it as a joke and just work your way into discussing it. Don't over think it,She is feeling the awkwardness too.

Elijah66
Mar 20, 2009, 11:13 AM
Wow thank you all for the answers :) It really does help. I am going to do some thinking and see how it goes. I will let you all know what happened as soon as I know :)

Thanks again!

~Elijah~

h_leann_b
Mar 20, 2009, 11:59 AM
I personally don't think you should jump right out and tell her you love her... If she likes things to go slow I don't know how much she is going to appreciate that. I would ask her on a date... start small.. Don't scare her away.

liz28
Mar 20, 2009, 12:47 PM
Yeah, what ever you do don't tell her your in love with her because that might turn her away. Whatever happens try to keep your feelings under control and be prepare for any outcome. I just hate for you to get burnt and being that your going into this by already having love for her you've to be careful because love can make you do some crazy things.

Shuvankar Rana
Mar 22, 2009, 01:35 AM
U should have told her your feelings towards her if she is a good fren of yours..