So here's a [I]brief[I] run down: My ex and I ended a 2 year relationship a little over a year ago. I thought it was the real deal. I still don't and will never question what I felt. It was real, for both of us. Like most relationships, it didn't work out. It was very hard to cope at first. It ended in a drawn out, maybe/maybe not way. Through a text message too, after living with her for 6 months.

But time does make things better and other than a few facebook/myspace interactions there hasn't been much contact. None since early January. Other than having her tell me how much she loves and adores her new love interest I told her I couldn't be a true friend with her until I am able to love someone else as much/more than I did her. So there was no contact for a couple months. Anyway... her birthday is tomorrow. She called me yesterday out of the blue to tell me she had a scary dream that my parents died and she wanted to make sure I was OK? Not only was I shocked/excited/confused to her from her, why would she feel the need to bring up her dream like that? I was busy studying for an exam and told her I would call back. She said OK. The day was increasingly busy and I did not find a chance to call her and actually sit down and talk to her for more than a few minutes until well after 11pm. I figured she might be sleeping so I would call her the next day. No surprise she didn't answer and hasn't made an attempt in 10 hrs.

My question(s) are: It's her birthday tomorrow. Do I acknowledge it? Why would she call? And to tell me that none the less? I know I am the type of person who can't be friends with someone that I still have feelings for. Was I wrong to tell her that? It's the truth. I understand she might be busy to and I know when I called her back I left myself open to dealing with her not answering or calling back. I guess I just would like some others perspectives both male and female. Thanks

I wouldn't acknowledge it, not if you want to move on. If you want to move on, I would cut ALL contact with her.

It seems to be that she is keeping you on a really long leash in case she needs you. Don't be available for her to hurt.

I agree 100% with CM.

Very very long leash, and it seems with a slight tug you'll come running?

I don't know about the whole running back thing. I'm just looking for an objective opinion because it's hard to make clear/rational decisions when you are the one in that position. NC seems like my only option...

If I were in that situation, that would be my ONLY option. I stopped talking to my ex after we broke up because I knew that I still had feelings for him, but also that we were not right for each other, and we both needed to move on. It's the easiest way to move on. Trust me.