Ive been with my girlfriend for 4 years and we have been living together for 3 years. Are relationship has had its up and downs, but the last 2 years have been great. My work asked me if I wanted to make more money for 6 months but it required me working 300 miles away from home. I talked it over with my girlfriend, we agreed it would be good for us and she could come out and visit me on the weekends or I could come home. The first 2 months we had no problems. But then it turned to were she only wanted to see me every other weekend. So I said OK because it was getting hard on us traveling on the weekends all the time. She also had been having problems at work and with family. Im on my last month out here now and I have not seen her in 3 weeks, we still talk on the phone and text though. She told me last week that she needed some space. She said her life is crazy right now and she wants to figure out what she wants. She's always been in a relationship since she was 16, she is now 24. She says she wants to experience the single life and needs time to get her problems in order. She's also been hanging out with friends that are single and I think they have something to do with this decision. She told me when I come home she's going to move out. I started to freak out and thought crap, I messed up by coming out here and not being there for her when she needed it. I don't think she's cheating on me, but I don't know. She told me she doesn't want to end it but she doesn't know how long it will take here to figure things out. I don't know what to do. Do I give her space, do I fight for her to stay, or do I need to realize its over?

You give her space, as she asked and be happy you found out now rather than later, that she wants to be single. While you "wait" enjoy your being single, and leave her alone. That's what space is all about.

You can' make someone be with you if they don't want to regardless of what you say or do. Her saying she needs time to figure things out is just her way of sweetly breaking up with you. So what do you do at point? Leave her alone and don't live nor hold on to the hope of the two of you getting back together.

So now after some time, she says she wants to stay with me at the house and not move out, but still doesn't want to see anyone. She talks to me but not like she used to, but she still tells me she loves me. She says we can have are own rooms for now. She also says she doesn't want me out of her life and that she does want to settle down but not right now. I go back home in 2 weeks for good. We rent the house that were at and are lease is up in May. I still love her and believe she loves me. Should I stay or should I go? I don't know what to do?