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GloryLor
Mar 5, 2009, 10:04 AM
Recently I have been feeling a little sick, some strange headaches and I've been eating a bit more. And better yet, I missed my period this month. I haven't taken a test but I've been comparing my symptoms to a friend of mine who for sure is pregnant. But I am still young. I'm still in high school, I live with my boyfriend, I told him I might be pregnant and he reacted very positively. He asked me what I wanted to do in case I was. He said that he didn't want me to get an abortion if I didn't feel comftorable with it.
But I'm not sure. I would love this baby with all my heart but I can't give it the life it needs and deserves.
First of all I want to know if I am really am pregnant. And if yes? What do you suggest I do?

Justwantfair
Mar 5, 2009, 10:07 AM
First go down to the drug store and take an at home pregnancy test, so you can determine if you are or aren't.

If you are not, consider this a huge wake up call. Having children is a tremendous responsibility ever more for a young, unwed, have yet to graduate high school female.

ZoeMarie
Mar 5, 2009, 10:10 AM
I would also suggest, that if you are pregnant and you're not ready, rather than having an abortion consider adoption. There are so many people that want kids that can't have them. You would be doing a really good thing, a very hard thing, but a very good thing.

kp2171
Mar 5, 2009, 10:30 AM
First thing is first.

Symptoms should not be compared. It is not reliable. No physician will diagnose you in this manner.

As mentioned, a test which looks for the presence of pregnancy hormones, is needed.

Take a HPT... best to do this first thing in the morning when you wake up, as hormone levels are most concentrated at this time.

Take the test exactly as the directions state. Not following the directions (such as reading the results outside of the time mentioned) can lead to inaccurate results.

Understand that the tests can throw "false negatives"... this happens when your body is not producing high enough levels of the hormone for the test to detect. Think of this like your trying to hear someone yelling. If they are too far away, you may not hear them, even tho' they are talking to you. Likewise, HPT's have a threshold... levels of hormone that are too low will throw a negative, even if you are pregnant.

That said... sometimes a negative is simply negative because you are not pregnant.

A positive, when taken and read within the testing guidelines, is fairly reliable.

Before you stress and fret about what to do next, you should know reality. The "symptoms" of pregnancy are not unique to pregnancy, meaning these "signs" are not reliable in themselves. Period.

ChihuahuaMomma
Mar 5, 2009, 02:26 PM
I agree with everyone. Additionally, are you using condoms? Are you on birth control? Are you trying to have a baby? If you can, I would suggest having the baby and giving it to an adoptive family that can't have children.

ANB428
Mar 5, 2009, 02:49 PM
I agree with everyone on going to get a pregnancy test. If you find out that you are pregnant the only one who can ultimately make a decision on what you should do from there is you. FYI, I am a single mother and I had my daughter at a very young age. Here are your options: You can have the baby, which will change your life drastically. You will have to be able to support the child and care for the child. Daycare costs me $125 a week, so you need to keep that in mind too along with food, clothing, diapers, wipes, etc. Children are not expensive. You will no longer have time to do things for yourself. You whole life will revolve around your child. You will also have the greatest gift on earth. A mother's love for her child succeeds all other. Your second choice is to have the baby and give it up for adoption. You will have to carry the child for 9 months and be able to give that child to a loving family who is not fortunate enough to have children. You have to think though, would you be able to live with yourself if you did that. Could you think about that child for the rest of your life and know that someone else, who can afford a child, is raising your child? Your last option is abortion. You will not have to take care of the child and you will not have to carry the child for 9 months and get big and go through all the pregnancy ups and downs. You have to think about how you will feel for the rest of your life though. You will always think about what if. Can you live with that decision? You are going to have to make the ultimate decision. Let us know what the pregnancy test says!