Good Day,

I am in this relationship that was almost heading to the altar , but all pf a suddeen started acting distant I asked over and over again what was going on but he kept saying there is nothing wrong then I noticed calls reduced visits reduced he told his friend and fanily he was no longer with me when we finally got a chance to talk he said that it was because everyone got to know and that I talk too much he likes his life private and he thinks this was the best decision for both of us . At that point I decided to give him space I stop calling but he kept calling once in a while and visits with a friend as an excuse that his friend wanted to say hi. My real questions is that when ever we are together there is so much emotions and we have made love twice since this whole happenings and I just feel terrible after it bcos I can't just make bring him back to how we were. I need to know how to get his full attention. Or how do I act to draw his attention.

He sounds like he is trying to distance himself, and that he wants this to eventually dissolve.

Confront him.

Tell him that this is unacceptable. Either you guys are together or you aren't. There's no middle ground.

I agree. If he still likes you then he should be with you, but if he can't decide he needs to move on. There really is no middle ground. If he throws a fit tell him that it is his fault, I'm sorry but it is. He can't honestly think that a woman is going to not tell anyone they are getting married can he? I mean keeping your private life private is one thing but a wedding is a big event that family and friends should be allowed to attend not be kept in the dark about. Plus it's not like people wouldn't eventually know wedding rings kind of give that away don't you think?

Going from going to the alter, to a booty call means its time to let this one go.