ISneezeFunny
Feb 25, 2009, 04:30 PM
Sneezy here.
I was wondering if any parent had issues with their teenage child stealing from them... not a few bucks here and there, but say... around $1500.
My brother (15) was just caught stealing $1500 from my mom. Our family keeps money here and there around the house, and my brother apparently found a spot and took the money, and then spent it all, he bought game systems, games, shoes, clothes, the works.
The thing is, he HAS money. My parents give him an allowance, I give him an allowance, he has money in his checking account, he has my credit card in case of emergencies, etc.
So our family is now in disarray, as we have no idea what to do about this situation.
We haven't fully ruled drugs out... although it doesn't seem like it.
Overall, he's a good kid, gets good grades, does chores, etc. but this has happened before as he stole a couple bucks when he was a kid.
Now, it's not a few bucks; it's not even a hundred; it's well over a grand.
We're making him return everything that he can to pay my mom back, and then he'll be working until he can pay her back for everything, but the problem is, my mom has pretty much given up on him. She doesn't want him to be punished, as long as she gets her money back, as she no longer trusts her son.
The kid's not... very remorseful... he feels bad, but I don't think he understands exactly HOW bad this situation is. His response was, "I'll just pay her back..."
So, any parents out there that had this happen to them?
And I'm sure I'll get the usual, "Kick him out of the house...let him go to jail...etc." Sorry, not really possible. I'm trying to figure out reasonable ways of turning him around to show exactly how much he hurt our mother.
I was wondering if any parent had issues with their teenage child stealing from them... not a few bucks here and there, but say... around $1500.
My brother (15) was just caught stealing $1500 from my mom. Our family keeps money here and there around the house, and my brother apparently found a spot and took the money, and then spent it all, he bought game systems, games, shoes, clothes, the works.
The thing is, he HAS money. My parents give him an allowance, I give him an allowance, he has money in his checking account, he has my credit card in case of emergencies, etc.
So our family is now in disarray, as we have no idea what to do about this situation.
We haven't fully ruled drugs out... although it doesn't seem like it.
Overall, he's a good kid, gets good grades, does chores, etc. but this has happened before as he stole a couple bucks when he was a kid.
Now, it's not a few bucks; it's not even a hundred; it's well over a grand.
We're making him return everything that he can to pay my mom back, and then he'll be working until he can pay her back for everything, but the problem is, my mom has pretty much given up on him. She doesn't want him to be punished, as long as she gets her money back, as she no longer trusts her son.
The kid's not... very remorseful... he feels bad, but I don't think he understands exactly HOW bad this situation is. His response was, "I'll just pay her back..."
So, any parents out there that had this happen to them?
And I'm sure I'll get the usual, "Kick him out of the house...let him go to jail...etc." Sorry, not really possible. I'm trying to figure out reasonable ways of turning him around to show exactly how much he hurt our mother.