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proud2bchilean
Feb 25, 2009, 12:41 PM
I dated a guy for almost 4 years... he hurt me a whole lot, broke my heart once and over again... last time we broke up I met someone else who lives in a different state. I was sort of dating both, still hanging out/hooking up with my ex and hooking up with the other one every time I saw him.
I ended up breaking up for good with my ex and decided to start a relationship with the guy from the other state. Now, him and I broke up too. For valentines, the guy from the other state gave me the most romantic surprise, the next night I didn't see him, went out dancing and gave my phone number to another guy, I was drunk and I don't even remember giving my correct number (got a new phone, still can't memorizing that well). Last weekend, the guy from the other state/new boyfriend came to visit me... on Friday night he went out with his friends, I went out with mine. When I was going to meet with my new boyfriend (the guy from the other state) I got a "booty call" from my ex, and I replied "I'd love to but I have to work at 7.30 am"... my new boyfriend looked through my phone and saw the texts and also a text from the guy I gave my phone number the week before. We broke up, my new boyfriend, now ex, was very upset, I tried to explain to him but I didn't tell him that the booty call text was from my ex, I said it was a guy a met years ago who usually drunk dials and drunk texts...
End of story: I feel like... I feel so bad and guilty, I feel like the worst dirt on the Earth.
What can I do? How am I going to get over this? I acknowledge my mistake... but I can't live like this anymore... advice? Please?
Thanks a lot!

chrissymarie
Feb 25, 2009, 03:03 PM
Well you should feel the way you feel. Your being very inconsiderate of the feelings of all these guys your talking to and being selfish. You need to treat others how you want to be treated. I suggest you leave all these guys you hurt alone unless they contact you and then if they do contact you, you need to considerate of their feelings and honest. Don't jump into another relationship until you can treat a man right.

You need to be positive you want to be with a person before you commit to a relationship. That's why your having all these issues. Date somebody you really adore so you won't treat them bad.