My girlfriend and I have been together for about 16 months and spent every day together.The other night she made me a meal and I wasn't hungry.She went into a mood and told me she needs a few days too herself on her own each week.So I stormed out and said it was over between did I over react?Or does she want to break up with?

You over reacted. Tell her your sorry.

You over reacted. tell her your sorry.

Do you think so?She said she loves me but needs some time on her own too get a bath and clean up the house.Starting to think I have been a little bit childish now.

Yes, a relationship isn't defind why how many times you see each other each week. You don't need to see one another each day and it doesn't means that she wants the relationship to be over by what she said. She just need space and you should respect that and also engage in activties with your friend and have a life outside of your relationship.

If things would have continue than she would,ve defintely left and this drowns a relationship fast. You need to talk with your girlfriend and listen instead of running away and pouted. Communication is a main key for a long lasting relationship.

Yes, a relationship isn't defind why how many times you see each other each week. You don't need to see one another each day and it doesn't means that she wants the relationship to be over by what she said. She just need space and you should respect that and also engage in activties with your friend and have a life outside of your relationship.

If things would have continue than she would,ve defintely left and this drowns a relationship fast. You need to talk with your girlfriend and listen instead of runing away and pouted. Communication is a main key for a long lasting relationship.

She did say in the conversation that I should go the gym or do something on the days we are not together.She is 33 and I am 23 so I think she is a lot more experienced than me in this.But I have taken this as a nice way of telling me she doesn't like me anymore.Alot of people today have told me that she needs space if you are together 7 days a week.

Wwll maybe your're inexperience but whenever your with someone everyday you atart to get sick of that person and feel like your being suffocated that why you need balance. You have do things separately and not always together. Even if you go hang out with friend or family or gym even a movie, do it you don't need to with her.

I think you might have over reacted. She mightbe breaking up with you, or something is wrong. You should apolagize and ask her straight out " is something going on?"

Wwll maybe your're inexperience but whenever your with someone everyday you atart to get sick of that person and feel like your being suffocated that why you need balance. You have do things seperately and not always together. Even if you go hang out with friend or family or gym even a movie, do it you don't need to with her.

You are right she was starting too get on my nerves a bit too we spend too much time together.

I think you might have over reacted. She mightbe breaking up with you, or something is wrong. You should apolagize and ask her straight out " is something going on?"

Phoned her up tonight and said I would come round too her house on Thursday. And she said "well thats up too you".Dont know what too think about that comment now whether I should bother or not?

No, you call and talk to her because she isn't breaking up with you so get that thought out of your head. Stop thinking negative and be more postitive and relize in a relationship you need trust, communcation, and it's full of compromise. Also, things aren't going always be peaches and cream sometimes your going be like oil and water but no matter what goes on you worked through them together as a team.

So in this case you was wrong and need to man up about your overacting and express to her what you thought she meant by it but now you see what she meant by it.

No, you call and talk to her because she isn't breaking up with you so get that thought out of your head. Stop thinking negative and be more postitive and relize in a relationship you need trust, communcation, and it's full of compromise. Also, things aren't going always be peaches and cream sometimes your going be like oil and water but no matter what goes on you worked through them together as a team.

So in this case you was wrong and need to man up about your overacting and express to her what you thought she meant by it but now you see what she meant by it.

She did say that also that things are not going too be great all the time.Getting some good advice from her it has cheered me up a lot very much appreciated.

You have a lot to learn, not only about females, and relationships, but about yourself also, like how to cope with your own feelings, and exercising some self control.

You have a lot to learn, not only about females, and relationships, but about yourself also, like how to cope with your own feelings, and exercising some self control.

You are 100 percent right I am already on a course to deal with my anger.

You have a lot to learn, not only about females, and relationships, but about yourself also, like how to cope with your own feelings, and exercising some self control.

Still not sure whether to ring her or not should I wait for her to contact me?

Self Control is the key words in here... so your answer to that question: NO, do not contact her

Self Control is the key words in here...so your answer to that question: NO, do not contact her

Just don't want her too think I am being childish not ringing?

It isn't about what she thinks... it is about learning to have control, and responsibility for YOUR actions! VERY RARELY do "thriving off of emotions" do any good.

It isn't about what she thinks...it is about learning to have control, and responsibility for YOUR actions! VERY RARELY do "thriving off of emotions" do any good.

But she hasn't said she wants a break she just said a couple of days a week so she can get a bath etc.And she said the nights we are not togheter could I text her before I get into bed.so I am not sure what too think or read into this?

Fine... wait on the porch until she lets you in...

Fine...wait on the porch until she lets you in...

So do you think it is over and I shoud not bother calling her again?Plus I have her house keys so I could let myself in.

You need something else in your life to do besides her. That's what she is saying because seeing each other everyday gets old really fast. Get a life without her, and call her later.

Maybe she isn't breaking up with you but honestly feels that after 16 months of day in and day out togetherness, she just needs some space each week to herself.

You need something else in your life to do besides her. Thats what she is saying because seeing each other everyday gets old really fast. Get a life without her, and call her later.

She has said that many times too me that we both need too something else in our lives.Do you think that could also be the case is that she is using me when she is lonely?

maybe she isn't breaking up with you but honestly feels that after 16 months of day in and day out togetherness, she just needs some space each week to herself.

Hope so and I think that probably is the case because she has told me that.After I lost my job we have been togeher 24 hours a day I know that hasn't helped.But I have this feeling in the back of my mind she wants too have her cake and eat it if you know what I mean.

Also since I have not been working I don't have hardly any money.but I still eat her food and drink beer out of her fridge.Think that is another reason she is getting fed up of me being there everyday.

Seems you could stand to take some time to get your act together. Who likes a mooch anyway?

Instead of being around her 24hrs a day, you should be out looking for a job because everyone likes someone that can stand on their own 2 feet. Then instead of being consider a mooch you can help her out by contributing to the food and any other bill. Btw, do your live together?

Yea u might of acted little childish running away just tell her how u feel give her time to think so she can think she don't want u all up her but.

Windstoper, after rereading one of your response I've have to ask does she work? Because if not, not only you, she needs to work too.

Also, you stated she wants to have her cake and eat it to but do you know what that statemen means?

Your right Liz, he doesn't have any cake.

Windstoper, after rereading one of your response I've have to ask does she work? Because if not, not only you, she needs to work too.

Also, you stated she wants to have her cake and eat it to but do you know what that statemen means?

No she doesn't work either she give up her job too look after her new born baby and her ex partner left her straight away.Then not long after I met her and she seemed very lonely and depressed.She now tells me that I have given her lots of confidence back but she stilll drinks too much.Know I should get a job but there are no jobs out there at the moment that's why I have applied for college.Hopefully I will get into college and kickstart my own life for myself not her.

Your right Liz, he doesn't have any cake.

When I first met her I had a good job and my own work van she had nothing more than a screaming baby and tons of other crap.Took all that on and another thing at the end of the week she is too receive thousands of pounds.This is another reason I think she just has been using me.She is talking of buying a brand new car etc.

Even when times are good, people break up, or just get tired of each other. The reasons are not as important as what adjustments you make to a changing situation.

All that counts is what you do about what has transpired between you, and this female.

Got plans?

Even when times are good, people break up, or just get tired of each other. The reasons are not as important as what adjustments you make to a changing situation.

All that counts is what you do about what has transpired between you, and this female.

Got plans??

I want too start at college at least that will keep my away for a while and prove too her that I am not lazy.

You don't have to prove nothing to her because what is she proving to you? Going to college is good and good for your future but what is she doing towards hers? Okay she has a child but many people work or go to school or do both, I did both. So I think your girlfriend might be lazy or full of excuses. Neither one is good in my book.

And if you stay with her while your out doing something worthwile you'd see this too and want more too besides time.

You don't have to prove nothing to her because what is she proving to you? Going to college is good and good for your future but what is she doing towards hers? Okay she has a child but many people work or go to school or do both, I did both. So I think your girlfriend might be lazy or full of excuses. Neither one is good in my book.

And if you stay with her while your out doing something worthwile you'd see this too and want more too besides time.

Thanks I agree she drinks very heavily and seems too dream a lot too.Since I have been with her there hasn't been one night she has not had a drink.Makes me wonder if she is for me after all.

Maybe she has a drinking problem that she isn't ready to fess up too and once she see it is a problem hopefully she gets help. Where is her child/ren while she is drinking heavily every night? Again, sounds like she has issues that have nothing to do with you.

Maybe she has a drinking problem that she isn't ready to fess up too and once she see it is a problem hopefully she gets help. Where is her child/ren while she is drinking heavily every night? Again, sounds like she has issues that have nothing to do with you.

She does have issues no doubt and does put her child second too drink.Last month she said we were over out of the blue for no reason.A couple of weeks later she knocked on my house at 01.00 in the morning crying her eyes out.She seems very unpredictable in that way she does have issues in my opinion.

Maybe she has a drinking problem that she isn't ready to fess up too and once she see it is a problem hopefully she gets help. Where is her child/ren while she is drinking heavily every night? Again, sounds like she has issues that have nothing to do with you.

We got back togheter but split up again about three months ago I have found out recently she has gone mad and had her kids taken away from her why do you think she has done this?

What do you mean by has gone mad? Has she been sectioned? You re split up so it s not your problem anymore.
However if her children have been taken into care it s a tragedy for them.

What do you mean by has gone mad? Has she been sectioned? You re split up so it s not your problem anymore.
However if her children have been taken into care it s a tragedy for them.

No she hasn't been sectioned just getting drunk everyday drinking till she is sick and having all night parties every day.The only reason I am bothered is because I have a feeling it is beacause we have split.

She is an adult and as such is responsible for her own life.
Your concern is commendable but if she s had a drink problem for some time it s her problem not yours.
I hope you have got on with your life and your plans for your future.

She is an adult and as such is responsible for her own life.
Your concern is commendable but if she s had a drink problem for some time it s her problem not yours.
I hope you have got on with your life and your plans for your future.

Yes I have got on with my plans but this has upset me a lot I still care about her and feel responsible in some way.But I suppose you are right she is an adult and makes her own choices its not my problem anymore.

Just don't know why she has acted like this it really annnoys me.

Many things are annoying-the thing is to move away from that which is no longer our concern.

Many things are annoying-the thing is to move away from that which is no longer our concern.

I know your right but it is easier said than done sometimes.

I know it is. But whatever feelings you still have for her you need to think of you and your life now.

I know it is. But whatever feelings you still have for her you need to think of you and your life now.

Exactly and when you do that they seem too come back chaseing you again for some reason.Although this time I think it is for real we will not back toghter again not after this.