I have been seeing this new guy for about a month (both divorced in our 40's) and because of distance we've seen each other only on the weekend so far. A few things I am finding odd. He tries to avoid Saturday nights (he's a stylist so I know he work late on Friday nights and Saturday till 5:00), but I'm a teacher and have to be up early during the week so weekend are the best time to go out till late. He claims he couldn't see me on Valentine's Day night (Saturday nite) cause he had his kids and came over for the day on Sunday with flowers ( I did not expect that since we were so new) and had a great day. He is always texting on his phone (rather talk to me that way also) seemed in a rush to leave after the romance on Sunday,after receiving some texts and is seems always preoccupied. He never really asks me anything about me.
This past weekend he said he had to go away for a training weekend and couldn't see me. He is always sending me sweet messages that is thinking of me and wishes he was with me. I hear from him a least every other day so far. I've meet his brothers and he has meet my son and sister's family. He claims he has been separted for less than a year. I'm not sure what to think. Is he a player, or just not that into me, just wanting to take it slow or could he still be married? What's up with him?:confused:

You'll have to ask him, sadly we don't know any more than you do.

Sit down and talk to him about your thoughts, the best relationships are about communication, those without soon die out.

Good luck.

Hw doesn't seems like a player from what you wrote but he seems like a responsible person and father that is just busy. However, in time you would get to see the true him. Are the two of you dating or in a committed relationship because if the two of you are only dating than you can date more than more than one person at a time so I think a talk is needed between the two of you.

Liz... thnxs... not sure it so brand new. We haven't said anything about being dating others I think its too new to put that kind of pressure on the relationship, but I having a gut feeling something's up?? Now I haven't heard anything from him in 2 days (since he is suppose to be away), yet I see he has been on his online chat accounts. I prefer honesty, so if he has other plans I rather him just say that. He seemed interested in what I was doing this weekend and when I told him I may get together with a girlfriend he said that was nice. I am really busy as well but he has the apple I phone so he is always on it... then why not send me a text this weekend? He has time to get on chats... but not time just to sway hi to me. Doesn't make too much sense and he seems like he juggle other woman... that's not for me.