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ZoeMarie
Feb 17, 2009, 02:54 PM
Ok, I had a dog for 13 years. She was like my best friend. I told her everything, yes, even though she was a dog she was there for me through everything. It came time to put her to sleep a few years ago and I was absolutely crushed. Although it wasn't my decision, I knew it was the best decision. She was having a really hard time getting around, she couldn't see. We knew she was in pain. I guess what I'm trying to say is that I know how hard it is to do something like that because I've been there.

Here's where I'm looking for some answers. My husband has had his dog for nearly 12 years. He can't see, he's in pain, he goes potty all over the house. It's hard for him just to get up if he's been laying down. And now, it's gotten to the point where he actually scares me. I had him outside this past weekend and he had been out for a little while so I was getting ready to bring him in. I said "ok Feivel, let's go inside." and I went to bring him inside, he growled, a really scary growl if I might add, and snapped at me. If I hadn't backed away as fast as I did, I guarantee I would have been bleeding. He's bitten my brother and he actually has bitten me before too. I'm at a loss. He is truly unhappy. He's ran away a couple times already in the past few months. I hate the idea of putting a dog to sleep but what other options do we have? Or is it time?

starbuck8
Feb 17, 2009, 03:09 PM
Has he always been this way with the growling and biting?. or is this just something that has happened since he's gone blind? He could possibly be disoriented, and it scares him if there is a sudden movement. Also, has the vet told you the reason for the blindness, other than old age? It could also have affected part of his brain.

I can see your dilemna, and maybe he needs some tests done at the vet to determine the nature of his behaviour.

Wish I could help more. I know, it's very sad. :(

techpro
Feb 17, 2009, 03:09 PM
I have had many dogs that have gone through this same thing.
If the dog is really hurting that bad I think he should be put down, a dog of that condirion shouldn't have to continue living in such pain, its inhumane. And I don't think he was actually trying to hurt you, but most of the time when a dog is in that kind of condition they can not hear or see you and when you get that close you scared him and he had an instinct to protect himself.
I hope I have been of some help.

Sincerely,
Ben

ZoeMarie
Feb 17, 2009, 03:37 PM
He has recently started the biting but the growling has been going on for a while. I know that he probably wasn't trying to hurt me, but it doesn't change the fact he did almost hurt me. It's gotten bad.

Alty
Feb 17, 2009, 04:09 PM
Zoe, I know how you feel, my oldest dog will be 14 years old this May. He's almost completely blind, almost deaf, has trouble getting around, but all in all he's still a happy dog.

I have to agree with Starby on this, could be that the aggression is from the blindness, not being able to see what's coming at him. Dogs rely a great deal on their sight, once it's gone it can be very detrimental to their health.

I wish I could say, do this, do that, but in the end you know this dog better than we do and only you and your husband can make this decision.

I'm so sorry you have to go through this, it's the hardest part of having a fur baby.

dena67212
Feb 17, 2009, 10:28 PM
Zoe,
This is exactly what happened to my 16 y/o daschund, Chloe... I actually had to put her to sleep last week on Sunday! It was by far the hardest decision I have ever had to make and I can't honestly tell you that I have recovered from this...
Chloe had been loving and cuddly and very attatched to me up until about 5 months ago... She had slowly been losing her site and her hearing... She began being aggressive and would bark for no reason.. She would run into the wall occasionally and I know that she was embarressed when that would happen.. At one point, we were laying down, I was petting her and out of nowhere, she bit my chin! I needed 4 stitches... I know that she didn't mean it, I just startled her somehow...
She was able to eat and walk outside long enough to go potty, but at times she would be walking down the hall and lose control of her bladder or bowels... when she realized it, she would run and hide under the bed... All I wanted was to let her know that it was okay... Her zest for life had gone... She spent all day sleeping...
Well, last Sunday, we think she had a stroke.. She was miserable and I will never forget the sound that came out of her mouth as she tried to get up... I wish I would've never put her through that... The vet had recommended putting her to sleep a few months prior, but I wasn't ready... I wish I would've made that decision more about her than me... I know that she is no longer hurting, blind, deaf and/or aggressive...
I struggle now with my loss and hoping that she knows I did this for her... I know that I did everything I could possibly to for her, I just hope she knows that... You should also check out the site How to Decide When to Put Your Dog to Sleep? (http://hubpages.com/hub/When-to-Put-Your-Dog-to-Sleep)
Lots of good advice there...
I do not know if I will ever be ready for another pet or if this will get any easier, but I can tell you, I have no regrets... this is by far the least selfish decision I have ever had to make...
I wouldn't change my decision if I had the chance because I know she wasn't happy nor was she herself...
Just ask yourself who you are trying to protect here...
I wish you the best of luck...
~dena