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NateStone
Feb 14, 2009, 08:03 PM
Howdy

Well for quite a long time now, I've been feeling severely depressed and even some minor thoughts of suicide here and there. At school I just feel so unhappy and feel that I don't fit in, the group of friends I hang out with treat me as if I'm just a nuisance and sometimes even forget that I'm there.
And when I come home from school I jump on the computer for the rest of the day with no one to really hang out with. (this is pretty much the daily cycle of my life)

A new idea has just come to me, could transferring high schools help me? I feel maybe if I surround myself with new people, I can try and effectively become a likable person
A way of starting over...

Could this work? :O

Penguinio
Feb 15, 2009, 01:32 AM
I think that this could work.
If the idea popped in your heart and you feel as if it would be a good change for you then maybe it's a good idea.
A year ago I wasn't very happy with life either. I felt so lost and everything and for months I was going further downhill but my friend bought a really small book on depression. There was one line in it that said 'depression - you might always be wanting to go back to how things were and make yourself happy that way but it probably won't work, you need a new way of living".. something like that. And that made me realize that I needed to put new things in my life. So I got myself another job and started uni and refreshed things and I foud it gave me a kick to life where I was feeling more motivated to do things..
Hope this helps..
:)

Clough
Feb 15, 2009, 02:16 AM
Hi, NateStone!

Have you told your parents or a counselor at the school about the way that you've been feeling?

Trying to go where the "grass is greener" isn't always the best solution because the grass isn't necessarily greener on the other side. Frequently, people who look for a change will carry the same sort of baggage with them somewhere else and run into the same problems that they had where they had formally been. This isn't always the case, but frequently, it is.

A lot of times it's best to try to "make the grass greener" where we're at. Facing difficulties and challenges with positive and proactive ways of coping with them are what make people stronger in order to be able to face other challenges in life.

Maybe you just might need some new strategies in coping with your challenges? I'll bet that you could turn your "scars into stars" if you really tried!

How about spending less time on the computer and more time seeking out others who are interested in the same kinds of things that you are?

How many people go to your high school and what sort of things are you interested in, please?

I bet that if you let us know some additional details about yourself and your situation, that collectively, we can come up with some coping strategies for you to "make the grass greener" where you are.

Thanks!

Mistery2000
Feb 15, 2009, 03:29 AM
Grettings,

I know the way you are feeling, I have been through the same thing, friends started to forget I even existed and treated me like , so I tried out for the SRC and made it in and I felt really happy about that because I did realise that my peers did reconise I existed in the world, and as well I also met my girlfriend, she changes my life dramatically.

Changing schools don't know, you already know these people already and if you go into a new environment you might just feel worse than you are now

My best advice I can give is get as involved as possible with school events and communicate with your teachers

NateStone
Feb 16, 2009, 09:52 AM
Alrighttt I'll add more details about myself

-my type of music is more of Musical/Dance contrary to my friends Hard Rock and Metal

-i greatly enjoy reading fiction novels of any genre, as well as writing some of my own

-video games are also something I enjoy, to single out a genre that would be MMO's

-although I'm not a very good singer :P I rather enjoy doing it when people are around

-I can sometimes be paranoid over small things (ex. If I say hello to a friend and he/she ignores me, I immediately think that they are upset with me, when it's most likely that they just didn't see me)

-I currently am not involved in anyyy extra curricular activities at my school

There's really only one clique I could probably fit in to, but every time I'm around them I just feel like such a nerd :P since all they talk about is just computer games and feel self-conscious of what people think of me hanging out with them. Can't explain why.

Clough
Feb 16, 2009, 12:51 PM
Thanks for providing additional details about yourself, NateStone!

What year are you in high school, please?

Thanks!

Clough
Feb 16, 2009, 01:00 PM
In case you're wondering, I ask the question above, not to be nosy, NateStone. But, knowing the level you're at in school, would really help, because if you're a junior or senior, some of your difficulties might be because you're going to be leaving high school in the not to far away future and having some confusion as to what you're niche in life is going to be. It's not uncommon to feel alone and left out if there is that sort of confusion.

There were very few people with whom I hung around with in high school. We were all involved in either band, orchestra or choir. Other than being with those few, I was a loner. But, because of the music connection, I did have a sense of belonging and some sort of idea as to what I was going to do in the future.

You just might not have found your "niche" yet.

Thanks!

NateStone
Feb 17, 2009, 03:57 PM
Hehe I'm a junior

Forgot to mention it :)