sabbinett
Feb 13, 2009, 03:13 PM
Hey everyone,
My husband and I have been married almost 2 yrs and just recently spent 2,000 dollars to take his ex (never an ex wife though) back to court to adjust child support. We live in Indiana and after spending all that money we are still getting screwed. I do not understand this and see how stressed out my husband is. Although it takes two, she did get pregnant on purpose and her plan did not work. However, my husband has ALWAYS done what was ordered over him and more throughout 8 yrs. She is 2 yrs old, and in 2nd grade full time. After paying two thousands dollars, they are still taking 200.00/mo for daycare that she has not attended in 2 yrs plus. I just do not forsee this getting any better, and even with a lawyer who brought out all of the many wrongs the mother has done recently, we were given nothing extra, and in fact she's being given something that makes no sense. Quite frankly, we can not afford this. I am a very liberal woman and believe that women should not live off the system for choices they intentionally made. It is unfortunate, but I do not like to see my husband suffer and certainly do not want to see him NEVER have what he deserves in life because of something he did not plan. Financially we cannot do what they are requiring and in ten yrs with the economy as it is, it is only going to get worse. He is now thinking of signing over rights and is upset to do so, but is at his whits end. We clearly have made every attempt (2,000) to get this adjusted, but the state of Indiana just never supports the husband. We are wondering how the state of Indiana works if the father gives up parental rights and if this will relieve him of child support.
Please help.
Signed,
Worried wife
My husband and I have been married almost 2 yrs and just recently spent 2,000 dollars to take his ex (never an ex wife though) back to court to adjust child support. We live in Indiana and after spending all that money we are still getting screwed. I do not understand this and see how stressed out my husband is. Although it takes two, she did get pregnant on purpose and her plan did not work. However, my husband has ALWAYS done what was ordered over him and more throughout 8 yrs. She is 2 yrs old, and in 2nd grade full time. After paying two thousands dollars, they are still taking 200.00/mo for daycare that she has not attended in 2 yrs plus. I just do not forsee this getting any better, and even with a lawyer who brought out all of the many wrongs the mother has done recently, we were given nothing extra, and in fact she's being given something that makes no sense. Quite frankly, we can not afford this. I am a very liberal woman and believe that women should not live off the system for choices they intentionally made. It is unfortunate, but I do not like to see my husband suffer and certainly do not want to see him NEVER have what he deserves in life because of something he did not plan. Financially we cannot do what they are requiring and in ten yrs with the economy as it is, it is only going to get worse. He is now thinking of signing over rights and is upset to do so, but is at his whits end. We clearly have made every attempt (2,000) to get this adjusted, but the state of Indiana just never supports the husband. We are wondering how the state of Indiana works if the father gives up parental rights and if this will relieve him of child support.
Please help.
Signed,
Worried wife