View Full Version : My Ex is back after 14 yrs but he has someone
drippingrose
Feb 5, 2009, 05:49 PM
My ex came back after 14 yrs. He saw me at a sporting event. I went up to him and started talking to him. I got his number and we started texting each other every night. It went on for a while and then he came over to see me.We also sent each other pics. After a while I text him but his girlfriend found my number on his phone so his phone was gone. We seen each other again and we talked he said that he would come see me later in the spring. I told him that I would like to see him before that and he said that he would try. His girllfriend thinks that we are friends cause he told her that but we are ex s. He keeps saying that we are just friends to me but he talks about remembering everything that was about the past and he keeps commenting me and touch flirting with me. I know that he has someone but if he really loved her he would not even think about getting my number or even seeing me. He wants to come and visit when he is not busy. They have been together for a long time and have a son. He is so confusing me and he does live with her. It seems like that is his security blanket. I am so confused on what to do about this I still have feelings for him. He said that he doesn't for me but he keeps doing things to make me think that he does. Can anyone help me please. Does he still want to see me and make things work because he other relationship is boring or something is missing in it and I fill the thing that is missing like excitement or something.
Drippingrose:confused:
roxypox
Feb 5, 2009, 06:05 PM
well, are you interested in being more then friends? And does this connection between you seem like more then a friendship?
I have to say that I can kind of see why his girlfriend is jealous and might feel a little threatened, if you want to be just friends, why not include her... if you have other intentions...
let it go, he is taken, and until he is no longer taken.. well... do you want to be the other woman? And do you really want to put someone else through that?
This is a dead end road! And nothing good will ever com from it, he's an x from 14 years ago and you have no claim on him, do all the people involved a favor and move on!
neverme
Feb 5, 2009, 06:17 PM
What your doing is horrible to be honest.
Not only to THE CHILD involved, but the woman and also yourself.
Stop looking for signs that aren't there. He said he's not interested so leave it alone.
Even if he was interested, do you have such low self esteem that you think that this is the best that you can do?
Well it's not. Someone else's man is not good for you, your head or your soul, so get over it.
No contact. Nothing good will come of this, I promise you. You will end up hurt and feeling worthless if you continue down this road.
If you accept this lying and cheating behaviour that seems to be what you want, then it will be OK to treat you whatever way he deems fit. And to be honest, if you lay on the floor and write welcome across your forehead then it's understandable to think you're a doormat.
talaniman
Feb 6, 2009, 12:08 AM
Whatever you had back in the day is long over and all you are now is a booty call, since you were dumb enough to make yourself so readily and easily available.
Wipe stupid off your forehead please.
ardahk
Feb 6, 2009, 03:58 AM
Sorry to say but they all have it right.
He has said he doesn't have feelings for you yet touches you and flirts.. Sounds to be just like a bit of fun on the side, he has a girlfriend and a child!
I wouldn't if I were you - no matter how hard it may be to resist you will only cause more pain and hurt. And in the end if you and this guy go out, it would have be born out of you effectively stealing him from his girlfriend - it won't be as pleasant as it was, by miles and miles.