confused14
Feb 4, 2009, 04:16 AM
My ex boyfriend and I broke up 2months ago after a 3year relationship we fought non stop were annoying one another and we were just pushing each other away & he was very immature about things- after 2weeks of ending the relationship he kissed someone else which was expected. Was hard in the beginning but eventually I got over it and started having fun myself and having little flings now and then.
We hardly spoke in the few weeks of ending things, then recently we saw each other out at a party and had a brief chat since then we have been civil to one another. Then the other night I found myself thinking of him and whether it was worth taking him back - so I decided to ask him if he has slept with anyone since our break up (because I could not bare the thought of taking him back after sleeping with some one else) he honestly said yeah he had just once.
Then that night he came to visit me and chat about the situation - I came clean and told him I have only kissed 8 guys since our break up and he said I fall in the same catergory as him (sleeping with some one) first of all is that true? Because sex is an intimate thing... then after him being there about 30min he made a move on me and one thing led to another it was purely lust thing and after we had slept together I didn't feel any thing! We never chatted about what had just happened I made him food and soon after that we were having sex for the second time. When he left I felt as though we had both used each other for pleasure - nothing more or nothing less.
My friends say that I'm better off with out him because he keeps proving over and over again that his isn't worth getting back together - I mean he got with his best mates ex in front of him (really low)
Im very confused because I don't know if I want him back - I feel that I need to experience other relationships so I know exactly what I want but in saying that I'm scared he won't be around when I decide that I want him back - and I'm scared if I get back with him I'm going to regret it.. I will always love him but I have become such a stronger person and learnt a lot and I know for a fact there is an awesome guy out there for me- I'm scared things are going to be worse off if we get back togther and I can't handle a 2nd break up!! I never want to feel those feelings again! I think he wants me back but is it worth taking him back??
We hardly spoke in the few weeks of ending things, then recently we saw each other out at a party and had a brief chat since then we have been civil to one another. Then the other night I found myself thinking of him and whether it was worth taking him back - so I decided to ask him if he has slept with anyone since our break up (because I could not bare the thought of taking him back after sleeping with some one else) he honestly said yeah he had just once.
Then that night he came to visit me and chat about the situation - I came clean and told him I have only kissed 8 guys since our break up and he said I fall in the same catergory as him (sleeping with some one) first of all is that true? Because sex is an intimate thing... then after him being there about 30min he made a move on me and one thing led to another it was purely lust thing and after we had slept together I didn't feel any thing! We never chatted about what had just happened I made him food and soon after that we were having sex for the second time. When he left I felt as though we had both used each other for pleasure - nothing more or nothing less.
My friends say that I'm better off with out him because he keeps proving over and over again that his isn't worth getting back together - I mean he got with his best mates ex in front of him (really low)
Im very confused because I don't know if I want him back - I feel that I need to experience other relationships so I know exactly what I want but in saying that I'm scared he won't be around when I decide that I want him back - and I'm scared if I get back with him I'm going to regret it.. I will always love him but I have become such a stronger person and learnt a lot and I know for a fact there is an awesome guy out there for me- I'm scared things are going to be worse off if we get back togther and I can't handle a 2nd break up!! I never want to feel those feelings again! I think he wants me back but is it worth taking him back??