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mizz_on_her_own
Feb 3, 2009, 10:26 AM
Hi. My name is Trish and I am 15 years old. See I've been dating this guy for a month and 2 weeks today and I know that it's not long but I feel guilty about some stuff that I did with another guy. It wasn't sexual or nothing like that.

I was just flirting with him a little and this guy I've liked for about8 months now and he lieks me but we've always seemed to go for each other when we are dating other people. Well we stopped talking for awhile because of his girlfriend but now they are over and he's back to me. But I have a boyfriend now. It's just so complex.

But anyway I've been starting to lose interest in my boyfriend and he keeps telling me how he loves me and all of this but yet when I want to spend time with him he's always busy with his friends. I think he is playing me but I'm not sure. So I confronted him about how I've been feeling like he's cheating on me. I just can't bring myself to talk to him about the way I've been feeling.


How do I tell him we are through with out hurting him?

Cuz the last time I broke up with him he called me crying and begged me to get back with him
What should I do??

N0help4u
Feb 3, 2009, 05:09 PM
You can stay with your now boyfriend and let it run its course
or tell him that his friends seem to be more important and you just don't feel it is working out. You need to leave the feelings for the other guy out of the equation and make decisions based totally on where things are with you and your now boyfriend.
If you really aren't happy with the way things are then you really aren't doing anybody any favors by staying in a relationship that isn't going anywhere,
He isn't considering your feelings from what you have said so don't feel guilted into staying with him.

Silverfoxkit
Feb 4, 2009, 02:31 PM
The longer you wait to tell him the truth of how you feel, the more its going to hurt sweetie. You have to talk to him, even though it may be kind of tough. If he is unwilling to give you the time you need to discuss how you are feeling, then you shouldn't waste your time on a guy who doesn't care about how you feel.

GoodLuckJen
Feb 4, 2009, 02:34 PM
I agree the longer you wait the worse

mizz_on_her_own
Feb 5, 2009, 06:47 AM
Yeah. I broke up with him yesterday but I didn't have time to tell him why. (at least not myself) I wanted to more than anything to be the one to tell him but things got complicated.

mizz_on_her_own
Feb 10, 2009, 10:24 AM
All right here is what is going on. Me and my boyfriend are broken up and as the days drag on I start to miss him more and more. I feel like an idiot for letting him go because honestly he was the best thing that ever happened to me I just couldn't see it until now. The only problem is that he didn't really have enough time for me lately and that's why I broke up with him. We were dating for almost 2 months and I have known him for almost a year but I think I fell for him. From the get go people would tell me stuff like he was cheating on me and how I could do better but I don't care what they say because they are just rumors nothing major. But just to make sure I confronted him about it and he got all upset and hurt about me asking him that. We are still really close and we try to talk the best we can but there are still the feelings for each other that are making it difficult to continue to talk.

Though here is my problem...


We really want things to work out between us but because of my previous history I have BIG BIG BIG trust issues with guys and he knows this. He knows about my past because I wanted him to know about why I acted a certain way. Yet he still asks me why I don't trust him. Should I give him a second chance or does he just seem to impatient... I'm just SO SO confused to where I can't even think straight in class:confused:

satfira
Feb 10, 2009, 03:53 PM
I think that you should try talking to him again and express how you feel. If you love him and he still loves you, it'll work out. About trusting guys, I know where you're coming from. My advice: try working it out. You can't MAKE yourself trust guys, you'll need to let the wound heal first. About how he doesn't understand why you don't trust him, I think that he just might not understand how you're feeling. Try telling him that you know he can't completely understand but ask him to have faith in you.

I hope things work out well!

mizz_on_her_own
Feb 12, 2009, 09:41 AM
Well thank you and I have talked to him and he understands now but I'm still a little worried about messing it up again.

booney101
Feb 13, 2009, 03:17 PM
Well if you ask me I think that you should talk to him about the whole problem and eventually you'll get back together. You should try to get back together and see what happens. If it all works out then great!! But don't give him too much trust until your ready OK!!
Hope it goes great
Booney 101

mizz_on_her_own
Feb 16, 2009, 09:08 AM
Yeah I talked it over with him and he said that he wanted to give it another shot as well and he says that he will try to spend more time with me and start inviting me over more. So we are now going back out. Thank you all a lot