I have two children. Ages 5 and a 2 month old. Prior custody orders on the 5 year old. None on the new born. (Same Father)
The Father lives with his parents for 3 plus years. Does not work, pay rent, utilities, nothing. Sees the 5 year old Friday night through Sunday evening... And, occasionaly through out the week after school. Does not care too much to see the 2 month old but maybe once weekly. The Grandma is the one that provides the care while child(ren) are there-meals, bath, bed time, etc.
I want to move. My mother has 2 established businesses in North Carolina that she has offered me a partnership in. The majority of my immediate family is there. I currently work as a pizza delivery driver.
The Father tells me to move with our new born and leave our 5 year old behind... I of course will not do this.
I do not want to interrupt my children's life with their Father, yet, I feel to not move to improve my and therefore their lives is not smart either.
How do or can I approach this??

You may have to see if parents will invest in company where you live?

But yes, of course you want to disrupt his visits, since he can not see the chirend each week if you move.

I would love to see my child as much sa you allow, so there father is very involved in their lives.

You can hire an attorney and see if you can change it, but you would have to offer him some longer visits on school holidays, maybe all summer and pay for all the transports, but he does not have to accept, and has a right to demand his children are keep close to him.

What you don't say is whether there is a court ordered visitation schedule. If there is, then you cannot move without court approval.

If there is no visitation schedule, then you may be free to move, unless the father files a protest.

You need to consult an attorney (preferably the one who prepared your divorce) as to what rights you have.