I am dating a man that is twice my age and we have known each other for ever but the thing is he is married
Also I am only seventeen and really in love
His wife is after me and he now needs some space
He says we will be together when I am of age
Do you think I shpould wasyte my time on him

Well if you are in GA, you need to call the police on him since that would be illegal.

But no, you should not be dating him at all until he is divorced. I see no real future in this. And if he will cheat on her with you, who is he cheating on you with.

No. No. No. No... and NO! Get out of there. This guy is 34, married and messing around with a 17 year old... you are being taken advantage of! He should be in jail right now for this...

Get out, as this is going to seriously impact your emotional well being for a long time if you let it continue. RUN!! Your post is screaming of wrongness and utter stupidity.

Any 34 year old man who has a relationship with a 17 year old is intellectually bankrupt.

Any 34 year old man having sex with a 17 year old should be in jail.

You could poll 10,000 people and everybody would say the same thing.

Get out. It will never be a healthy relationship.

You should not have gone there to start with the guys married and probably has children, leave him alone or be responsible for breaking up a home, and what for, a guy who is twice your age and just wants a bit on the side... I know that sounds harsh, but that is basically what you are.

Your probably one in a long line of affairs that's been going on for years and yet he is still with his wife no doubt lying through his back teeth, you won't be the last so don't waste your time get out before his wife catches up with you... as she surely will eventually.

You ask is "it is right", but you don't specify is what right. So lets deal with all the wrongs.

1) Being involved with a married man. That's wrong on several levels. This man made a commitment to his wife. How loyal do you think he will be with you if he cheats on his wife?

2) Being involved with an an adult when you are a minor. This is also wrong. I can't imagine what a 34 yr old would see in a 17 yr old except a phsyical attraction. In any case, suhc a man is most likely morally bankrupt and not good material for a long relationship

3) Having sex with an adult. This may be illegal in your state.

You should be running from this person.

Getting involve with a mar man is causing a lot of problems, as you can see. The wife is wrong because her anger should be towards he husband because after all she is married to him.

My question to you is why did you put yourself in this situation? Can you not find someone around your age group and who is single?

If you think what your shared was love then think again but it wasn't. Married man would say everything nice and sweet and what exactly do you think he wanted from a teenager. You've to use your head and not put yourself in these situations because you would get burnt. And when he's done with you he will go and olay his games with someone him because if you ask me he's a pervert.

Everyone should be lock up, him and his wife.

because if you ask me he's a pervert.

Everyone should be lock up, him and his wife.

He would be a nice fit in jail... they love his type ;)

Well, that's where people like him belongs and they should remain there. It's sad that sometimes people who commits non-violent crimes get more time than people like him.

But I would like to know where is the girl parents and what are they doing about this matter?

Yes. You are wasting your time.

Here is a good rule of thumb: If the guy is married or in a relationship he is NOT AVAILABLE. Period. If you follow that rule, you'll never break up a family, become the "other woman," or turn into a mistress.

i am dating a man that is twice my age and we have known each other for ever but the thing is he is married
also i am only seventeen and really in love
his wife is after me and he now needs some space
he says we will be together when i am of age
do you think i shpould wasyte my time on him

Well, you are quite funny, you answered your own question. "do you think i shpould wasyte my time on him" - you

Why is he a waste of time? Often people let out their real feelings under the guise of a joke, but that is not a joke, you know what you should do better than any of us here.

As for the whole love issue, when our emotions are the only reson we are with some one we are being fooled. We have brains, and can think. If we don't remember that, we tend to ignore our thoughts and how we are getting them. Then we "think" we are in love when really we just put a pretty picture on a dangerous situation. Be mindful of why you, Love him, and think long and hard on weather or not you want to be with him. What are your interests in commen, are you keeping in mind he will most likely die before you leaving you alone, and what if he is sick for a long time before he dies will you look after the old man??

I'll come clean with you. I am 24, when I was 23 I met a very beautiful, interesting, smart, funny, kind, caring and loving 17 year old. We had both come out of sierious relationships but had bin single for about 4-5 months. So we got to talking, and we talked all the time, day and night. She wanted me to have her over for a "date", but I was not too keen on the idea. I mean sure I loved her and still do, but she was still in high school, and I was going to college. I had no money, not time, and no home to call my own. As we debated why I should not be conscerned about how old I am and young she is, she finnaly convinced me that we should give it a try. Funny thing though, her ex came back from working in the bush, and said he wanted her back. So, being her friend, I said,"Do you love him?" Then the talk progressed for a long time. Finnialy she asked me,"what about us? I don't want to loose you." I said,"You never will, I'll always be your friend, and give you the best advice for you that I can. Its ok, you sound like you miss him and want to give it another try, don't worry about me, I can handle being alone." (that was a bit of a lie, I fear being alone more than anything, but I'm learning about that.)

The point is, that I wanted her to be happy, and if it was with him, then good. She didn't have a BF for a long time, but when they sounded like they missed one another, I recognized that they had unfinnished business. She respected me enough to be open and honest with me, about more than I barganed for, but she never lied to me, nor the other guy. If she did, he wouldn't have been so displeased with me. Guess he felt threatoned by me. :) Funny situation eh? I love her more so because she didn't lie to any one, not for a second. I appreciate that.

The guy is married, and broke a commitment to his wife. No, I'm not talking sex, you have not said anything about that, I'm talking about his oath to her. Do you want that, some one who has not told the truth, and Commit to one person. People do change true, but simply letting go of how ever long they've bin married for some one half your age. No offence, I can see you're very smart. Like us all you are confused by your feelings, and your thoughts. He maybe great, but is he only great for you, because he sees a goal he can a chieve by keeping you happy?

I can not tell you what to do, with out "knowing it's as useless as chewing bubble gum to solve an algerbra equation." - YouTube - everybody's free to wear sunscreen (http://ca.youtube.com/watch?v=L44WMesvTUU&feature=channel_page)

No my young friend, all I can do is tell you that you are smart, wise, beautiful, kind, loving, caring, funny, and interesting. Because you are, you may not believe me, you may even dissagree, but I know better to listen to one's insecurities. I don't need to know your reasons, nor hopes/dreams to know this, all I need is to know that you simply are...


""Life is ours we live it our way"(metalica) and some times we make mistakes. Then we are faced with the consequences, but do not despair if they are "bad" consequences. There is always spacetime to change... "- Me

Ill give you some words that maybe you will feel are helpful.

"Believe nothing no matter where you read it, no matter who said it, no matter if I said it, unless it agrees with your own reason and common sense." - Buddha

"You yourself, as much as any one in the entire universe deserve your love and affection." - Buddha

"We are what we think, all that we are arises with our thoughts. With our thoughts we make our worlds." - Buddha

Peace and kindness be with you.

P.S. a little Haha for you, : YouTube - Flight Of The Conchords - Frodo, Don't Wear The Ring (http://ca.youtube.com/watch?v=SWf3iJjqYCM&feature=PlayList&p=C8F8FFFBD57AD16E&index=0&playnext=1)

YouTube - Flight of the Conchords Ep 6 Bret, You've got it Going On (http://ca.youtube.com/watch?v=LtfQg4KkR88&feature=PlayList&p=C8F8FFFBD57AD16E&index=4)

Funny stuff. ;)