I have been with my boyfriend for nearly 7 months and we have made plans to move in together in 2 months. My boyfriend's birthday passed a few weeks ago. His most recent ex (they broke up 2 months before he started dating me - and he dumped her) sent him an email just after his birthday inviting him over to her place so that she could cook him a nice meal for his birthday and so she could show him her new place. He initially accepted the invitation and then asked me how I felt about it. I told him I was very umcomfortable with the situation, so they've changed plans so that they're going out somewhere instead. However she didn't seem to like that idea and insisted on knowing why he wouldn't come over (she is aware that he has a girlfriend). This really irritates me a lot, and I would much prefer if he didn't see this ex at all. He insists that she's a good person and he'd like to be friends with her (and he hopes that in time I'll be fine with her - which I won't be). Am I being unreasonable in feeling this way? How is this situation best handled? He assures me that he won't be seeing her more than a few times a year, but even this makes me uncomfortable. What is the right way to react to this?

You have every right to feel uncomfortable. And you obviously are. You should tell him straight out just that. You are not being unreasonable. Almost every sane woman I know would feel exactly as you do. Your BF is not being fair with you. I am sure he would be ecstatic if your ex BF invited you over to his home for a special birthday dinner cooked for you... or for an intimate dinner at a restaurant. What he is doing is not right. I suggest you tell him it really bothers you. If he loves you and respects your feelings he will cancel with his ex. If not, then you should seriously consider whether you are going to be able to put up with this for the rest of your relationship.

Sometimes guys could be so cluelesa to things and don't see what us female see without thinking were acting jealous.

This girl might have hidden motives and if you feel this in your gut than listen to it.

However you can't control him and defintely not her. I hope that he listens to you and if he does remain friends with her keeps his eyes open.

I went through this before. My boyfriend at the time thought I was acting jealous because he was a good person. So I let him be friends to a girl that I knew what her intentions were but he needed to see it for himself because it didn't matter what I said. It didn't take long for him to see her intentions and when he did he came and apologize and felt foolish. But I told him not to worry because I always trusted him but not her.