I was just curious after reading another post. Is it common for women to have an attraction to other women? How many women have had an urge to be with another woman?

Hi Adam.. I think a lot of woman do.. I am a gay woman.. and I get hit on or flirted with by staight woman all of the time.. we call it playing... they want to play with the idea.. but.. are genetically striaght... does this help.. hope so...

I have always had a huge desire to be with another woman. It's a comfort factor of a body I understand, knowing that I am with someone who completely understands my body.

And a woman's body has so many beautiful areas. It's just a fantasy.

She is right.. it is a fantasy.. the difference is when you want to take it a step further.. But.. I think a lot of woman fantasize about the experience..

Ok, I see. I was just wanting to know what other women thought about the idea, or how many women fantasize about it. A woman's body is so beautiful. That must be why so many more women are attracted to same sex than guys are to guys huh? I wouldn't ever imagine being with another guy.

True Adam.. none of my straight male friends are interested in other sexual male relationships. They understand it.. but would never cross that line. Also.. Woman have more open girlfriendships.. more affectionate.. and close.. that also spawns some of the fantasy I think.

For women, sex is an emotional experience.

While for most men, anything could essentially get them off.

When you are talking about the better of the emotional available gender, women can relate better to women, which enhanses the fantasy or desire for the experience. It would essentially be a very different kind of sex.

I have always had a huge desire to be with another woman. It's a comfort factor of a body I understand, knowing that I am with someone who completely understands my body.

And a woman's body has so many beautiful areas. It's just a fantasy.

How come you never act on your fantasy?

Just.. it's true.. I had great sex with my ex-husband... but sex with my girlfriend of 8 years is both emotional and physical.. and we have a great time before and after... talking and reacting.. all of it. I could be with a man physically again and enjoy it.. but I doubt I ever will.

Nothing personal Adam... LOL

I am in a committed relationship.

Why I haven't in the past, the nerves previously mentioned in another post and I have never found the appropriate way of finding a willing partner.

I have kissed many women, but never taken it past a make out session or two.

Just... How old are you if you don't mind me asking... are you amrried... have you ever followed through?

Would your boyfriend be open to any new ideas?

Wow.. Synnen closed the other thread?? I wonder why?

Nothing personal Adam...LOL

None taken

Wow..Synnen closed the other thread????? I wonder why??

Yea, I seen that. I think somebody made them mad. Haha.

Yea, you could always bring it up to your boyfriend and see if he is even up to just watching. I know I wouln't pass that up ever.

It has to be respectful.. and understood that it is meant with love and a gift.. ground rules are important.. so nobody's feelings are hurt. Most men would like it.. but he has to know it is about you exploring your sexuality.. not him.

Just... would your boyfriend be interested in this.. or is this something you would rather do on your own. Again.. what is your age.. if you don't mind.

Yea, that is true. If he thinks it is about him, he may be very upset about it. Maybe just talk about it, and see if he would sit the first one out. I'm sorry, Without realizing it, I put you on display. I didn't mean to do that, but if you want to talk about it, we are here!

Adam.. did you notice Synnen has posted the seven deadly sins... and under lust... a picture of two men kissing... I respect her opinion... but that struck me..

Yes.. Adam is right.. this is very personal.. we did not mean to make you divulge your inner most thought.. my apoligies

Yea, i seen that. I think somebody made them mad. haha.

Not at all.

It was just off topic.

I MODERATE threads to keep them on topic, and I figured that closing the thread would be better than deleting the off-topic debate that wasn't about the original poster anymore.

Ok, point taken. Just wondering.

No this isn't something that he would be open to, I wouldn't either, as in my opinion it is still cheating. Surprisingly enough he is one of the only men I know that do not have this fantasy of two women together.

I am 30.

Just.. well that's good that the two of you know where you both stand. I am not a fan of it either.. I think it brings trouble myself.. but I was just wondering. Thanks for divulging your age... it just brought me prospective on who I was talking to... ya know.. 18 or 50.. Thnaks

Look, if you don't like the way I moderate, report my posts.

However... I was merely correcting the idea that someone should drink to decide whether they were interested in something new, especially sexually.

This is no longer open to debate.

THIS thread is supposed to be about how many women have fantasized about other women.

This is a help board, not a chat board. If you would like to chat back and forth about subjects off topic, I would be happy to move your conversation to "Member Discussions".

In the meantime, please stay on topic.

Thank you.

Not a problem, behind this screen name and the fact that no one out there really knows me... I AM AN OPEN BOOK... LOL. :)

No this isn't something that he would be open to, I wouldn't either, as in my opinion it is still cheating. Surprisingly enough he is one of the only men I know that do not have this fantasy of two women together.

I am 30.

Ok, thanks for your Participation. I wasn't meaning to put it out there like that, but thank you. Yea, I can't think of many men who would pass up the idea of his Woman being with another woman. That's just my opinion. I find Women so beautiful, I just love evertying about a woman's body, and seeing 2 exploring each other is what I would imagine be amazing!

I've thought about being with another woman. I've fantasized and even considered acting on it. I don't want any kind of relationship with a woman though, I just want to see what it's like to have sex with one. As of right now I'm in a committed relationship with my boyfriend so I wouldn't do it, but the thought has crossed my mind.

I wouldn't say I fantasize about other women but I am often attracted to them the same way I am attracted to a man. I never act on it because I don't really think I want sex with a woman I just for some reason like the way they look. I think a lot of women feel this way.

Yes, I think that a lot of women think other women are beautiful. I thank you for your comments. I think someday you should act on it if given the chance.

I don't know if male participation if warranted but my experience with women is that about 70% that I have talked about this subject with do fantasize about other women. Some a lot, some once or twice, some on and off.

However, like what has been said by the few women that have posted here, most have no interest in taking it to a physical level; especially on their own. If they do express that interest in is in the company of a man having a threesome with two women so she can explore without the complications of a one on one relationship which most don't want.

Bonita.. if you would consider intimate relations with a woman.. why not a relationship... just curious... thanks

Texas.. what makes you think most woman who are curious.. don't want a relationship?. If gay people were purple... you would see a lot of purple people.

Nice point susananne. I don't think it is neccassary for a woman to have to want to have more than a physical relationship with another woman. I have had a few one nighters and that is all that I wanted out of it. You know, in a straight relationship? Absolutely no offense what so ever.

Susananne--What makes you think that people can't be curious about sex with the same gender without wanting a relationship?

If people were classified "black" for gay, and "white" for straight---I'm betting you'd find a lot of gray people in the world.

PS--I've had the fantasies, took it to the next level, and decided that a relationship with a woman was waaaaaay too turbulent for me. The drama with women was always way more insane than the drama with guys--and yes, I dated both.

Susananne--What makes you think that people can't be curious about sex with the same gender without wanting a relationship?

If people were classified "black" for gay, and "white" for straight---I'm betting you'd find a lot of gray people in the world.

PS--I've had the fantasies, took it to the next level, and decided that a relationship with a woman was waaaaaay too turbulent for me. The drama with women was always way more insane than the drama with guys--and yes, I dated both.

Thank You Synnen! That was beautiful! Yea, I think I get the drama thing! Makes a lot of sense!

Texas..what makes you think most woman who are curious..don't want a relationship?..If gay people were purple...you would see alot of purple people.

Just my personal experience in talking with quite a few women about this very topic.

Because of the sample size, results are accurate to only + or - 50%... ;)

Synnen.. what I am saying is.. you cannot decide you will not have a relationship with someone.. until it becomes intimate.. how can you make that determination before you are actually in it.. and YOUR drama is your personal experience. I find men much more work than woman.. less drama maybe... but less of everything else too.. but it was nice debating with you again..

And why would woman be more Drama than men.. that is a stereotype. I know lots of men who fill their days with drama of one kind or another... and lots of woman that are not interested in drama at all.

I think you shouldn't decide who to be intimate with until you've had a stable relationship with that person, whether the relationship is "romantic" or "friendship" or whatever.

How can you decide to be intimate with someone before you know them on other levels?

And yes, that was my experience, and I was putting it here because the OP asked about women and their experience with attraction to other women.

I just think that people should be more discriminating in general BEFORE they crawl into bed with someone--whether or not that leads to a romantic relationship is up to BOTH parties--but there should at least be SOME form of relationship already there that involves trust and communication.

And just out of curiousity.. where would a gray person's sexuality stand. Does that mean anyone even curious... then on that we agree. What I was saying about seeing lots of purple people was.. most people are ashamed to admit their True sexual feelings... not just the fantsies

Synnen.. are you saying that you consider a stable relationship one that involves no intimacy first?? Just a question!

Bonita..if you would consider intimate relations with a woman..why not a relationship...just curious...thanks

I'm just not into women in that way. I've never had feelings for a woman the way I do for a man. I like the way some women look, I'm physically attracted to them but that's about it. If I was to have sex with another woman, I would still want a man there, at least watching us.

Synnen..are you saying that you consider a stable relationship one that involves no intimacy first???Just a question!

I'm saying that intimacy is MORE than sex.

It's trust, communication, liking a person, respect--a LOT of things that can be simply a friendship but could lead to more than a friendship.

I think my relationship is pretty stable--we've been together 13 years, and have been married for 7.5 of those years. He started as my FRIEND though, and I wasn't hopping into his bed until I liked, respected and trusted him--which gave him more respect for me in the end.

Intimacy has EVERYTHING to do with sex--but is NOT sex itself.

As far as a gray person's sexuality--I just personally do not believe that ANYONE is completely gay or completely straight. EVERYONE has had at least one thought about the same sex--or has had thoughts about the opposite sex. I think the right circumstance and the right person could mean a lot to a person's sexuality, regardless what they think their sexual orientation actually IS. So--since no one is "black" or "white" in regards to sexuality, but a mix of the 2--then everyone is gray.

I think that the question was a simple do women fantasize about the possibility of engaging in a sexual encounter with another woman.

I don't think it was a question to determine the moral perimeters of such a encounter. I think it is common for women to fantasize about being intimate with another woman but not in the aspect of wanting to make a lifestyle change.

>Thread Closed<

To remind Susananne, and others, AMHD is NOT a chat site and as such threads will be closed if they diverge from the original question.
Same applies to posting disparaging comments.

That being said we don't want to stiffle discussion, but there are boards specifically set up for that.