Hi I been with boyfriend for just over a year. And his ex has come back on the scene and I knew he still had feeling for her, but she lives in Ellesmere and we live in Wrexham. He doesn't know what to do, he loves me to pieces, and I love him to pieces. I can give him everything he wants. This all happened before Christmas. I was just wandering how do I find out who he has chosen, as he still comes round, and says he loves me, but he has cut back on how much he texts me, please help

Why don't you be straightforward and directly ask him...

Cause I don't want to push him away

Yes.. speak to him...

Why would u push him away if u just asked him directly?

From a lad point of view how would I tell if he had chosen me

Cause I may upset him

Why are u unsure whether he has chosen you?

Cause he doesn't tx me much

This way you are not pushing him away but only stopping the problems which can arise for you in coming future. Its better to face the reality than to close your eys and sit.

How can I tell if he chosen me

But I have had fortune told and been told that we will end up getting married

How would I tell if he didn't love me

How would I tell if he didn't truly mean it when he tells me he love me

but i have had fortune told and been told that we will end up getting married

WHat?

Welll has he chosed me for fortune teller to tell me we will get married

I wouldn't base anything on a fortune tellers reading...
Doesn't sound like you are confident in this relationship
Communication is the key!

Welll I do believe fortune tellers as it always comes true I am confident I trust and love him and I no he feels same about me but just not confident he has left her in the past

When you are saying you are neot confident about his past then it clearly means that you lack confidence in him. Better don’t get things mixed and let anyone play with your emotions in future. What is the harm in asking, if he really loves you he will give the answer and would not mind anything.

I am confident in him well I no he loves me as he has posted on face book for everyone to see before he deleted his account

I don't no but I could be wrong however it seems like you need signs of love to feel loved...

Speak to him

Well he came round yesterday before he went to football cause he lives with his parents but I live on me own use imagination what happened then before he went he gave me a hug kiss and said he loved me

What would be perfect night on valentines day for you so I can have some ideas for me boyfriend

How old are you both?

I am twenty twenty one in November he is twenty one and twenty two in April

If you want good advice you probably want to go into a bit more detail. Maybe right more than one sentence? Go into more depth. Don't worry nobody cares who you are here. We only care about helping you.

True! :)

What more detail do you want to no

A romantic home cooked meal?
With candles, wine and maybe a dvd ?

wat more detail do you want to no

Look at other threads in the forum and you will see what detail is. I'm sorry but we can't give you good advice if you don't open up and WRITE!

More input would help

We can't give you good advice if you don't give us INFORMATION about both of you. You see, people are different and have all sorts of likes and dislikes. Perhaps if you go into a bit more detail we can give you usefeul tips.

True, I just suggested what first came to my mind

Are you drunk? We'd love to help but look at the other threads.. if you don't provide more than a few sentences we can't really help you much--as much as we wanted to.

We both like movies we don't ;like dgoing out drinking

What if he busy on valentine night

A nice dinner and a romantic movie is a good start.

Why busy?
Busy working? Busy doing what?

Well... leave the bottle of wine out and enjoy juice or water

Busy with family as his mum may expect him to babysit while she goes out

Well all I want to no is how to tell if a lad truly loves a girl

Well what more do you need to no to help me

How about you go over to his mums house and have nice romantic quiet night in?

Surprise him with some takeaway and while the kid is sleeping you can watch a nice romantic DVD. You don't need anything fancy to have a good valentines. As long as you are together enjoying each other's company it should be enough.

If you are questioning it there is definitely a problem or some issue of some sort...

I am married and have been with my husband for 10 years...
Of course at first you question things, but after a while you start to see the real true colours in the relationship..

You should just feel it..

How long you guys been toegther?

It's not that easy. You need to tell us specifics. Situations that make you think he does and others that make you think he doesn't. IN DETAIL.

We are NOT fortune tellers in here

We got together 21st November 2007

I give up!

Cause we not met each others family

It not that easy not met his family and I am a shy girl to just turn up on his door step

Everything seems so difficult!

So what... there's always time for the first time...

So do I!

Well my friends say that they can tell he loves me but he sends me three txs yesterday usually he sends over ten txs is this a sign he doesn't love me

But I am a shy girl and wonder what his family would say if they found me in bed with him

I don't think judging by the amount of text messages he sends is a sign of love.

Have you ever been in a long term relationship before??

Am I too leaniant on him friends say I am as I let him go to football instead of spending time with me

Yes but I got hurt by him cheating on me

Oh dear!
You seem to contradict yourself a lot...
If you are that shy why would you jump in bed with him at his parents house!
Enjoy a night of good food and good company and a good talk and a romantic dvd
SELF-CONTROL!

Well you see..
Now he has cheated on you before...

That's why expact2009 was asking for more details...
Instead of a 1 liner sentence

Cause I have been there before but while all his family was away

More 1 liners...

Please write everything on 1 post. Use puncuation.
And more people will help

Oh right I was in a relationship for two years then found out he was cheating became single for three years then met this one I with now I love and trust him but I scared my past will repeat itself

Weel when we first got together he was playing for football team and I didn't want him to stop playing so I let him continue and we would spend time after he finished but winter came and it got too cold and friends said I should make him spend time with me instead of going football

Well I think your friends are being unreasonable...
Let him play football and you can meet after football is over!

Yeah but before it would be difficult as my mum wouldn't let me out

We have spoken about having children together. And my family want to no when do we plan gewtting married and fed up them going on to me as we will sort that when we are ready

This is all too much too soon...

Relax and have fun together!
Children are a huge commitment and from what I gathered about your relationship and family I don't recommned this now - not all...

You are questioning love, and how to tell if he loves you and you are telling me you are ready for children..?

No but we have discussed how many we would like what we would like in the future we love each other I just scared my past will repeat itself is that odd or normal

ITS not how many children you want.
Have you discussed finances?
Money for schooling, clothing, etc...
Where would the child live as he still lives at home?

Being cheated surely can't be nice... but not all men are cheaters..
Trust and communication are vital - if those 2 are missing then its pointless..

Having kids won't suppress the feeling you having of things repeating themselves.. hope you understand my point here

Are you really 22??

No he twenty two April I twenty one November

But you live alone you said.. right? Why wouldn't your mum let you out??

Yes I do yes as he moving in with me gradually each time he comes he leaves piece of clothing behind

Yes I live alone now but when I lived home with mum she wouldn't let me out after nine in case something happened to me

So what's the problem? You live alone now

You are not getting my point. I'm sorry but I give up

And your point is?

Cause people still say I too leanient on him as some nights he doesn't come round

I think you abit too needy!
Space is good sometimes

Cause friends say I still too lienient cause some nights he doesn't come around

No I no I like my space whole flat to me self get to do what I like

I got me first smear test a week Wednesday don't no what to expect

Time with you... to me, that is all that ever mattered. If I got time with my girlfriend that night (now ex), then I was a happy man. All the overglorified Valentine's Day stuff is for other people, just give me good quality time with a girl I love, and I am a happy dude!

Thanks but it difficult as he may have to look after his younger bro and sis while his mum and her partner goes out. I would go round but not met them and don't think valentine night would be right night to meet the,m

If they are out, how will you meet them? And even if so, so what if its valentine night? Its just a normal night really.. its no big deal...
And your not going there with intention to meet them but to surprise your boyfriend

I been seeing a lad for over a year I got me own place but he still lives with his mum and I want him to move in with me but he pays for most the bills at his mums what do I do

This is not a relationship question.. should be done under women's health

I no but they will come back while I still there so me boyfriend could walk me home

Wouldn't it been easier if you put all your 1 liner questions under one thread with useful information? Instead of 10 questions with one sentence only!

Sorry

I got first smear test and don't no what to expect

What a Feeling - Smear Test (http://www.whatafeeling.net/smear.php)

Pap test - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Pap_smear)

What's the problem? I don't see it as a big deal at all

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Please stick to ONE thread for this ongoing issue rather than SPAMMING the site with multiple threads.
Also it would be extremely helpful and good mannered if you read what has been suggested and make intelligent, thought out response, rather than simplistic one liners that are unhelpful.

Trust is the basis for a successful relationship.

You don't trust him.

He doesn't trust you (or he would bring you to the parents).

Therefore, this isn't a healthy relationship.

I think you need to spend time single and figure out who YOU are... not if the fortune teller is right.

Your whole life is built on him, and that's not healthy. Your afraid to communicate even your basic feelings, and have to many issues that must be resolved.

If this thread is any indication, your lonely, but him moving in with you is not your answer. Finding your own voice, and expressing yourself is.

All those chat speak one liners are not helping any one either and maybe you think we can read minds, but we cannot, nor can we predict the future.

Come on, without more descriptive sharing on your part, such as some background history, no reasonable advice can be given.

Thanks for the advice I had yesterday I spoke to him this morning and he told me I was being stupid. That I worry too much if I don't stop worrying do you think it could split us up even though we love each other to pieces.

Yes it can, especially when there are no facts to support all of that worrying. If it causes you to act on impulsive feelings, it will undermine your relationship, and your life as well.

Should u believe people or instinct feelings

To make decisions for yourself, you need facts, even the ones you don't like.

Instincts are the part of your common sense, that's telling you to pay close attention, and I trust mine, as they are based in the facts, not just feelings.

Just feelings can cause trouble when they conflict with the reality of facts. Sometimes our feelings allow our mind to play tricks on us. Then we see things that are not real.

Do you have some facts to go along with your instincts, and feelings? If not, get them. Then make a decision for yourself.

Yes as I no he wouldn't cheat instincts tell me that too but friends say he will

Tell him that, I got new boy friend... he is more handsome than you... see the response.. if he this agree... then think about him... otherwise... leave him... alll the best

I can't cause he kepps saying that I deserve better than him but I don't as he treats me like a princess

I think you are in deeep love with him... first come out from that... and touch the reality... then act... do think otherwise... he may be cheating u

No he wouldn't do that to me he said that cause I alwaysing getting him out of trouble