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marie5555
Jan 11, 2009, 05:05 PM
I am a newlywed... I love my husband dearly, but I feel like for the past couple of months I have to ask or let it be known that I want to spend time with him. I feel like I shouldn't have to tell him to spend time with me.

He used to be so attentive and loving but now if I get a full two hours with him of laughter or doing something like watching a movie, it's a lot.

We only have Sundays together otherwise he works or I work, and I would like to make that OUR fun day, especially since we are about to add a new member to our family but I just don't know how to do that. I do not want to let it get to the point where we could care less about dedicating time to each other because otherwise I will get a divorce. I do not believe about living under the same roof if there is nothing emotional there... Any advise??

talaniman
Jan 11, 2009, 07:49 PM
How long have you been married, and how long were you together before you got married?

You do understand having a child, and I assume a first for you both, is a life changing event, and a lot of latitude must be given at this time. So whether things change for you, I recommend strongly, for you not to make major changes at this time.

Your both going through some emotional changes, and need to get through this with some patience and understanding.

Fr_Chuck
Jan 12, 2009, 05:44 AM
I believe you may have gotten married for a lot of wrong reasons and have no real commitment if you can just say you will leave.

As you are married longer relationships change, and sometimes life and routine happens, time together often has to be planned. The one partner often expects you to just know they love you and are surprised you may not see some litte things they think they are doing

Handyman2007
Nov 23, 2011, 09:15 PM
One thing most people tend to forget after marriage. You are still both individuals. And even though you think you are not "being together" , you actually are when ever both of you are home together. It's not like
When you were dating. You are "together" 24/7/365. He loves you, you love him. Welcome to reality.