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susanDD
Jan 7, 2009, 07:24 AM
This guy and I have been talking to each other for about three months and we have not had an argument and he always said that he loved the fact that we never argued or that if we did, they were small ones. Last weekend, this guy went off crazy at me yelling at me and cussing me out over the phone because of some misunderstanding (him calling me but I didn't get his phone calls). He made a big issue and got very angry over something that could have been solved easily. He avoided me for the whole weekend, I went over to his house and waited for him... and he just never showed up and hung out with his friends all night long. He hasn't called ever since then, so I called him. We talked and he says that he doesn't want to be with me because he is afraid he will hurt me even more. He says that what he liked the most about me was the fact that he "couldn't get mad at me". He says that he realized that he is able to get very angry at me so he wants to end the relationship because he knows that it will happen again (when he was angry, he said some really messed up things like "I am going to punch you in your face if I see you). I am so hurt by this. I haven't done anything wrong... Really, I tried seeing him and talking to him calmly but he is not willing to. He just wants to end it... I know that it's not like we have dated for so long... But we had such a good time together... How can something like this happen all of a sudden? I love him... I want to stay in this relationship but I know I shouldn't... someone just please give me a reality check... please...

kctiger
Jan 7, 2009, 07:27 AM
Tell him bye, and be done with it. Clearly he has some anger issues that he needs to work on. His absurd behaviour is only a slippery sloap, that could lead to physical violence. You are better off without him... why would you want to be with someone who threatens to punch you in the face?? Later dude! You deserve better than that. Leave the psycho alone.

I have an extremely bad temper, and never have I threatened to hit my girlfriend... (ex).

HistorianChick
Jan 7, 2009, 07:30 AM
Hon, this guy has admitted to anger problems. Bad ones.

I have to give him kudos for saying that, but you need to take his advice and leave him alone.

You need to walk away from this asap. Your safety is at risk.

talaniman
Jan 7, 2009, 07:59 AM
You have only known him for 3 months, and now your finding out what he is really like. If you stay, you will find out more, and may not like what you see, or get cussed out some more. So looks like you need to make a decision, if your that much in love, or not. I certainly hope your not!

susanDD
Jan 9, 2009, 07:40 AM
So we got into an argument over nothing where he reacted, over the phone he threaten to hurt me physically if he saw me, etc. He avoided me for three days, phone calls and he didn't come home because he knew I was waiting for him there. After couple of days, I went to see him and we talked. He says that he can't be with me right now because he didn't like the anger he felt towards me that day and that he will feel this again probably. And that he has been in a relationship before that the same thing happened, so he doesn't want to go through it again. He feels that things we'll be different between us from now on, so he thinks that it's best for both of us not to be together. Is it possible for him to just break up with me because of how angry he felt? Or did he meet someone knew but doesn't want to tell me? He keeps saying "I can't be with you right now" why the hell does he have to say "right now?" as if he is giving me some kind of false hope.
I am done with the fact that it is over but I am sitting here wondering if it's possible for a person to end a wonderful relationship like that out of no where because of how angry he felt... What do you think? Thank you

ISneezeFunny
Jan 9, 2009, 07:54 AM
... how wonderful was this relationship if he threatened to hut you? I mean, how wonderful could it have been?

If you guys are in such a fight where threatening physical violence comes about, yeah, I think it's right to end the relationship.

Why would you want to be with someone who threatens you?

Romefalls19
Jan 9, 2009, 08:07 AM
I am wondering the same things about that myself Sneezy!

I have gotten quite angry with my fiancé but physical harm has never came into my mind

talaniman
Jan 9, 2009, 08:50 AM
Susan, if he acts a zip darned fool over nothing, what would he do over something that really mean't something? You poor lady, your not seeing reality, as your relationship is anything but wonderful.

Actually he did you a favor.