View Full Version : Do I still love him?
Nevaeh26
Jan 3, 2009, 11:38 PM
-- Ok if I just told my fiancé of 6 years that I don't love him anymore and want to move on with my life is it normal to not want him to be with anyone else down the road?
DJ28
Jan 3, 2009, 11:42 PM
Lol you should have just asked that in the same post, but anyway I've heard of some people being like that. Me personally I would be mad about it. If you don't love him why would you not want him being with someone. I mean isn't that kind of selfish? Is that far to him? I mean if he loves you can't have you because you don't want him, but then can't have anyone else is that really fair? Would you let someone do that or say that to you?
Nevaeh26
Jan 3, 2009, 11:49 PM
lol you should have just asked that in the same post, but anyway ive heard of some people being like that. me personally i would be mad about it. if you dont love him why would you not want him being with someone. i mean isnt that kind of selfish? is that far to him? i mean if he loves you can't have you because you dont want him, but then can't have anyone else is that really fair? would you let someone do that or say that to you?
Probably should have? I don't think that I would like someone syaing that ot feeling that way towards me and no it doesn't seem fair to him, but some how I just feel that way, I know I know I am being selfish and I get what you are saying... I don't love him anymore so why would care if he is with someone else... And I can't really answer that!
JBeaucaire
Jan 4, 2009, 01:13 AM
You will care that he moves on, especially if he does it successfully before you do. So what?
You can feel anything you want, you CAN'T make life choices based on your feelings, or you will spread misery in your life and those near you.
Feelings are fine, and mostly uncontrollable, so feel them, consider them, then make intelligent decisions about how you express these feelings or not to the world.
Breaking up with someone then expressing feelings about what they should do with their life... that falls into the "ignore your feelings" category.