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AlextheGreat89
Jan 3, 2009, 07:58 PM
I was going out with this guy for two and a half years and he ended up breaking up with me because we were going to different colleges. However, it's been six months since we have been broken up and I'm still in love with him. I think about him every day, and I even think of him when I'm out dating other guys. I don't know if I should just confess my love to him and fear getting rejected (again) or just letting him go even though he's still on my mind. I still think he is the one for me because I keep thinking of him constantly, and his mom and I are still close and still do things together; I even cry for him at least once a week, which is ridiculous to be doing 6 months later but I'm still in love with him. What should I do? Please help me.

~Alex

ZoeMarie
Jan 3, 2009, 08:01 PM
I'm not sure what the reasoning is behind doing things with his mom but that most likely plays a big part in why you're thinking about him constantly. I would try to break away from spending time with his mom and you'll find yourself thinking of him less.

N0help4u
Jan 3, 2009, 08:02 PM
You said you are afraid of getting rejected again... would the again be that you have already asked to get back or are you referring to the break up?
Have you asked his mother if he asks or says anything about you?

I would think you should tell him the door is open if and when he ever wants to get back together.

a la king
Jan 3, 2009, 08:04 PM
Just because you love someone doesn't mean it's right to be with them. And sometimes that love is really just comfort in disguise.

6 months isn't all that long to get over a relationship that lasted a few years... do you really want to expose your feelings to him and start the entire painful process over again? I'm sure when you first broke up you cried multiple times a day?. now you're down to once a week... you can go back to square one or continue on your healing path and soon you may cry once every two weeks... and eventually once a month and so on...

talaniman
Jan 3, 2009, 08:16 PM
You need to move on, and keeping in touch with his mom, isn't helping at all. You need more time.

marcel_ke
Jan 4, 2009, 12:11 AM
One day one place in the future your roads will cross again in different circumstances.take your shot then. Until then look anywhere else but him or close to him or close ones.
He's not feeling your love now