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aj2234
Dec 30, 2008, 07:52 AM
I was wondering How I can get my ex-girlfriend back?
We dated for eight months. I found out her ex-boyfriend came back
And begged her to take him back. Of course, she never told me. I felt something
Was wrong. So one night, she checked her email at my house, and never signed out.
I came home after work and thought I would go and check it myself, sure enough ton's
Of emails of them talking back and forth. So, I told her I know your secret. She did not
Deny it. Then she said she needed space. I said I think that would be good for both of us. Well, she still emails me; and say's I miss you, I am crazy about you and so on. Then sometimes she calls; say's she don't know what to do? She feel's torn, and she don't know who to pick me or him? Do I ignore her? Do I not answer her calls or emails? Tell her I am
Dating someone else? I know what not to do; like beg her to come back and so-on.
I did not spend Christmas with her, cause she said she had her kid. Yesterday, I got home. By the door there was a huge box with 15 present's in it all wrapped from her. I just don't know what to do. I also don't know what she is doing by all these mixed signals.
Please Help... Thank you!

N0help4u
Dec 30, 2008, 10:24 AM
Tell her she needs her space. Let her know one time exactly how you feel and then go to NC so she can sort it all out. As long as she is still communicating with you and the other guy her emotions and judgment are going to be clouded and she will keep playing the two of you.
If she chooses him then you have to either still wait it out or move on.
To me it sounds like she is immature and wants both pieces of the pie. You really should just move on and leave the mess to the other guy. I know girls in their 30's that still keep going back and forth between 2 or 3 guys because they can't decide

chrissymarie
Dec 30, 2008, 01:34 PM
I think you should give her her space and if you truly love her just sit back and let her make the moves.

She's probably just confused. Sometimes its really hard to move on from an ex but remember he's an ex for a reason. He will be out of the picture soon enough.

Don't give up hope. You 2 can still work things out.